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Well my guy was with a woman for 11 years and excepted the fact that he would raise step children and never thought he'd have any of his own. I always wanted more. My kids dad was abusive towards me and our kids so I had a TL. Well we got together and I talked to him about it and his mom was really on him about it. Only having one granddaughter by his sister. Any way he said he'd think about it and one night I was leaving for work and he told me he wanted one or 3. Lol! But anyway 5 months. Later we had our TR. Now he's the one bringing in boxes of ovulation kits. He's so excited. He's wonderful. Never been happier.
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hello everybody. i was jus reading sum of the comments regarding dh. my hubby says he wants a child of his own, but i want him to be excited bout it like i am. why are men so complicated?
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My husband and I were both a little skeptical at first. We had been talking about it, but nothing serious, for years. Then, I decided to do a search on reversal possibilities and ran across CHTRC website. It spiraled from there. We were both scared and nervous about making that definite decision, but now that we have, we are both excited about the big TR day (Ap 5).
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I knew within the first 24 hours of meeting my husband that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, but when I told him that I had a TL his face dropped with despair. He did not have any children of his own, and I thought for sure he was going to want to move on with somebody who could give him a child, but he stuck around. In fact he stepped right in to his role as co-parent. We started to talk about TR nearly three years ago but either of us knew how successful it would be, and the first nurse I ever asked told me that the it costs about $10,000 and the the chances of getting pregnant were only about 10%. Then I researched it for myself and Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center stood out among the rest. But in my head I couldn't ever imagine ever getting all the way from Colorado to North Carolina. After talking about it with my husband, he said he was fine with only having my three kids, and that he did not want to interfere with my education, and career but I told him it was totally up to him. A couple of years passed and we were sitting in church, and there was an 18 month little boy who looked just like his daddy sitting right in front of us... and when we left my husband looked at me and said " I want baby" So I got back on the computer and CHTRC was still the best option for us, we took everything one step at a time and everything fell into place. Five months later we had our TR. That was in 8-09 and we just got our BFP last week. Now I get to remember DH's reaction when I told him I was pregnant, and not his reaction to news of my TL.....
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well my dh was like sure. Not really understanding that there was an actual procedure that you could have done (TR) to have another baby. The day i went to get on the plane to have the surgery, he was kicking and screaming he didn't want it done. But me being very stubborn said you should have told me before i spent all this money, too late and i got on the plane. lol!!! Once the deed was done, he was whining a little but enjoying every minute of getting to the bfp part. now that our daughter is here, he thanks me almost every day for doing it.
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I know I had some regrets about my TL at certain times. Certainly I regretted not having just one more. But by the time I had been divorced for awhile and enjoying my single life I found a man that totally changed my life. One thing was clear, that I would not have any more children. I had a tubal ligation. My husband was fine with that. Then we had a little scare, AF was about a week late and I was never late. I tested, and it was negative. To my surprise he said "it would have been ok it you were". I thought "REALLY?". So it started the conversation about TR. It gave us something to think about and it made me feel good that he was open to the option. However, life seemed much too busy and hectic and I put it in the back of my mind. But my DH had actually done a little research on it, so by the time I brought it up again...he had some information for me. It took me a little bit to warm up. "Should we start over?" "am I taking away from my other children?" "what about retirement?" "where will a baby even sleep in this house?". I had a ton of what if's and my husband never takes any major decision lightly, so I knew he felt comfortable and had already gone over his "what if's". So I guess it was sort of the opposite, he waited patiently for me to feel comfortable. He is a patient man. I am thankful he didn't push it on me and thankful he stayed open to the idea. If he had not been accepting I would probably never pursued it on my own.
We took everything one step at a time. And one thing at a time fell into place. Research. Cost. Money. Where. When. And now its just been a journey of TTC together.
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Honestly he had to convinve me to have a tr done. i had my tl done at age 22 and was set on kids. We talked about it over a year ago and when he never brought it up again i was glad, now i watch my 3 yr old nephew and 6 month old niece 5 days a week and have since changed my mind. Now i want one or two more myself. lol We have already had my op report sent to the office just waiting on tax money to pay for surgery.
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I wanted to add something. The 1st thing you should ask yourself is why you want the TR. If it's because of PTLS , I feel it should be up to you. It's your body and you are the one in pain. If it's because you would like another baby I feel this is something that you both agree on. The only reason I feel this way is because bringing a baby into the world is a big step. You want to enjoy this time. If your husband is not happy about this it will only add stress to you. Most men have to be around it to want it. I had my TR in 2005, at the time my husband said he just wanted 1. After I had TR#1 our friend had a baby. My DH and I went to visit. The min, we left the room he said I want another baby. We got PG right away. To make a long story short, Im now PG with TR#5. My husband loves to have small ones running around. If I didnt have his support and help I would have stopped a long time ago. I am very lucky to say he helps out with what ever needs to be done. he has even started working from home and helps me from diaper changing to bath time. It really takes 2, I wish you the very best
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My husband was quite reluctant since our children were both older and in school. He was not as thrilled with the idea of starting over in our mid-30's.
We finally agreed to go forward with it, but it did take a bit of time and lots of conversations.
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I agree 100% with you. We are out of the baby stage, all my children are in school and I want to start all over sgain. My husband does not like the baby stage of children. He likes them the most when they get big enough to talk and play by themselves. He loves children, so I know I can convince him to have one more. I think about babies all the time. I guess that is the motherly instinct (sp?). I am planning a tubal reversal in Feb 2010.
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He ultimately said I can have it done but I think it's just because he is tired of hearing me talk about it. I want him to be as excited about it as I am. I think the amount of $ is what's freaking him out. Also we just started being able to do things without a diaper bag, stroller, etc..........
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From the time my DH and I starting dating, one of the first questions from him was "can you have more children?" I have DS 22 and DD 10. He doesn't have any of his own. Thankfully, due to a previous relationship I was in, I was considering having TR. Therefore, I had already started longing and wanted to have a TR. I had started the process of looking for a suitable DR to do the surgery. Once I started looking and Chapel Hill Tubal Reversal Center came into view I asked my OB/GYN and she actually referred me to Dr. Berger . So, it was definitely a joint decision with my DH and I to have it done. We just had to wait on the funds. We finally got the funds yesterday and are sending it to Chapel Hill on Monday. However, due to a little set back on the bloodwork I am hopeful that I will be able to get my TR before or in Feb 2010. Keeping my faith and believing. Roslyn
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My situation was kind of the opposite...I was the one who wanted the tubal ligation and dh said it was my body my choice to have more or not. Well I regretted it from the day I came home with my ds. I never said anything to him...but I had told my Dr of course and one of my best friends...fast forward a few years and dh was active duty in Afghanistan and said something to the same friend how he would love to have more and of course in turn she told me and then I told him how I felt and from there it was basically a waiting game until we had the money to get the TR done. I was able to have mine done in April this year!
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One thing was clear, that I would not have any more children. I had a tubal ligation. My husband was fine with that. Then we had a little scare, AF was about a week late and I was never late. I tested, and it was negative. To my surprise he said "it would have been ok it you were". I thought "REALLY?". So it started the conversation about TR. It gave us something to think about and it made me feel good that he was open to the option. However, life seemed much too busy and hectic and I put it in the back of my mind. But my DH had actually done a little research on it, so by the time I brought it up again...he had some information for me. It took me a little bit to warm up. "Should we start over?" "am I taking away from my other children?" "what about retirement?" "where will a baby even sleep in this house?". I had a ton of what if's and my husband never takes any major decision lightly, so I knew he felt comfortable and had already gone over his "what if's". So I guess it was sort of the opposite, he waited patiently for me to feel comfortable. He is a patient man. I am thankful he didn't push it on me and thankful he stayed open to the idea. If he had not been accepting I would probably never pursued it on my own. ![[celebration]](graemlins/celeb.gif)
However, due to a little set back on the bloodwork I am hopeful that I will be able to get my TR before or in Feb 2010. Keeping my faith and believing. ![[Love]](graemlins/hearts.gif)
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