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I'm so glad to hear everyones story! I as well don't want to tell my family...they are all so negative...besides they aren't the ones raising my children or having to pay for them!! I unfortunatly am going to have to tell my mother when I schedule because she is the only one I've ever left my three girls with for more than a few hours! My husband and I both had a change of heart. I'm so glad to have this message board because only you guys on here understand! Everyone is pretty much going through the same thing! SO thanks!!
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Kris I know what you mean my MIL told everyone in the beginning of our marriage that my DH only married me because he felt bad for me trying to raise 2 kids on my own and still tells everyone that she feels sorry for him that he will never have a baby of his own I hope someday I can show her
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This is so crazy!!! I thought I was the only one not telling people. And to think, I felt bad. Good to hear DH and I aren't the only "sneaky" ones around! LOL...my family knows, but his doesn't. I do want to tell them sometimes but then I think like you girls and say to myself, I don't want to hear any negative comments, nor do I want to have them get all excited thinking "their" son (my DH) is finally gonna have a biological child of his own, he's never been married either. I already got the "vibes" from his dad, making me feel that his son shouldn't have married someone (me) that already had 3 children prior to meeting him and that my tubes were tied. I just hope that if and when we do get our BFP, that they're as excited as we are. I also have in my mind that if they're not, then that's their problem, right? I'll talk to you guys later. Sorry so long....I'm just glad to hear we're not the only ones. Merry Christmas! Love, Kris
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I have to my mom that we are trying to save the money for TR. I will not tell my mil. For the same reason of everyone else. I don't want to hear why did you have TL or the ttc. I didn't tell anyone I was ttc with the first two. I am sure people will think I am nuts for wanting a third. I really wished I never done the TL. I am sure I am not the only person that did this. I am glad we can have it reversed.
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I haven't told any of my family or friends yet that we are scheduled for the surgery for the same reason, I don't want anyone asking what is going on--only want to tell them if everything is okay and we get that BFP! I haven't told anyone except my boss (needed the days off and light duty afterward), we're just taking a little trip, no one knows where!
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I thought I was the only one who didn't want everyone breathing down my neck I thought TTC would be hard enough and have its ups and downs without the entire family saying "Are you PG yet?" or "Are you crazy, blah blah" My DH doesn't know it but I did tell my mom, we are so close and tell each other everything. I told her she will have to do her best acting when we finally announce it. Oh and Kim I can't wait to see my ex's face when he finds out, before we left he called me and asked if everything was ok. when I told him yes, he started asking a bunch of questions about our trip and he actually asked me if I was having a TR, of course I told him my trip was none of his business.
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We have not told our families about the TR, nor have we told my ex and his wife, who we see several times a week.
I can't tell you how many people have seen my DH with a baby in the last few months and said "he looks like he wants one, you know, IT can be reversed" or "your tubes can be untied, you know!"
I don't say anything, but I feel like blurting out "DUH! I've had it done!" but then our cover would be blown. After 6 months of trying, I am SO glad we have not had everyone breathing down our necks and watching us like hawks. I just smile and say, "yeah, maybe someday..."
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Good one AnnMarie. If it's just pocket change to him then he should be willing to part with it. LOL I understand not wanting them to know yet. My mom and his mom are the only ones who know in our family. I just didn't want to deal with all the annoying questions like "why would you want more kids' and "are you pregnant yet". My niece is pregnant and not really happy about it, so I expect Christmas to be hard.
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First let me start by saying that everyone in our family knows I had the TL done. No one knows we had the TR done, they know we took a few days out of town to get away from everything. So Saturday was Christmas with my In-Laws. My BIL has a 2 yr old boy and my DH was playing with him and having a blast (of course) so my BIL says why don't you just get the money together and have surgery it can't be more than 10K (he and his wife make really good money and they building a HUGE house). My DH and I just looked at each other not wanting to blow our cover yet. So because I am a smart*** I said why don't you give us the money. So he dropped it, but I was so nervous I thought for sure my DH was going to blow it. I really want to wait until I am 100% sure everything is o.k. My BIL's wife is expecting their 2nd child so it is hard to be around them right now (for me) Well I just thought I would share my funny story with you ladies.
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