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motherbug! I think that every woman on these boards would echo what you are going through! I certainly did. I recall a broad range of emotions and even crying the week before it was time for my TR and not knowing why! I can tell you this. Once you come to the oppportunity to schedule your TR you are in excellent hands CHTRC! I know that does not take away anxiety and "what if's" but the staff and everything about the experience will be unforgettable! I had my TR on 7-8-09 and still in the early stages of healing. I do not look back on what I did or the fact that I chose CHTRC-that is how awesome everyone there is! Best wishes to you! I am rooting for you!
I have four kids. The girls are almost 20 and 19, the boys are 14 and 12. I also have a 2 year old grandson. My husband and I have been married for a year and a half. I am 38 and he is 36. He does not have any children of his own.
We plan to have the TR in November the day before our 2nd anniversary. Our plan for now is to just enjoy life and each other and hope for the best. If we don't get pregnant after about 6 months then we will start doing the various testing. My husband loves my kids as his own so if we aren't blessed with another baby we will still be happy. I just hope all goes well. I know deep down my husband would really love to experience the "whole" process of having children.
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Chrisnbrian, If you dont mind me asking, how old are your kids and how old are you. I am in the same boat, my husband and i have been together for 10 years and have 3 kids together, ds 9, dd 8, ds 4. We never thought we would want more kids but now we do, I just assume that it will be easy to get pregnant since they only removed 1.5 cm from one side and 2 cm from the other. Im more worried about m/c than anything else. We are very fertile and never had any problems before.
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Hi Motherbug, You might want to take a little break from the message board and look over our website to see if you can be reassured by the information there on the areas you are feeling overwhelmed about and you can give us a call with your questions. We would be happy to help you. Try to distract your thoughts for a while and engage in something totally different. Hope this helps. Kathy
Wow! YOU SOUND EXACTLY LIKE ME! LOL! I never had a problem getting pregnant either (hence the tubal ligation in the first place!!) I never miscarried, and overall I had great healthy pregnancy's! I am actually taking a different approach with the tubal reversal now...I have the checklist...I am doing everything in my power to have everything ready so when I make the appointment, I feel confident that I have done everything humanly possible to ensure this goes well. And, I feel the same about post tubal as well. I am not going to worry myself to death about getting pregnant. I am just going to enjoy sex with my hubby and just go about my everyday regular life. I have three awesome kids and it may be different if I were totally infertile or if I was remarried. But, I am married to the same man, and father of my children. We never thought we would want another in our old age (LOL) so, whatever happens - happens! But, I am so glad I found Chapel Hill....I am confident it is the BEST place I could go to! And, I have lost another 3 pounds making it a grand total of 14 lost pounds! YEAH! Good luck to you as well, and everyone else!!
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Hope you're doing well and some of the anxiety has calmed. There's certainly alot to think about before your TR but I think taking it one step at a time is very good advice. Take care of yourself and your body and just let us know if you have any questions.
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They actually recommended for me to start taking prenatal vitamins. I did not stop taking them for the surgery. They are very good to take before TTC, while TTC, during pregnancy and after pregnancy. A lot of people take them right on.
I'm right there with you. Honestly, I was worried or anxious about the TR until I started reading these message boards. (let me say they have been a great help too! )
I never thought about the length of the tubes. It never crossed my mind about a miscarriage (because I had never had one). It never dawned on me to test to see when I was ovulating. I never had a problem getting pregnant before and didn't think I would this time either. I could go on and on.
I haven't had my TR yet and already I'm worried about having a miscarriage.
My husband thinks I would probably be better off if I stopped reading all of these posts. I'm really worrying myself sick.
I'm hoping to have my reversal in November. (I'm still working on my weight)
After the reversal my plan is to just enjoy my married life with my husband and if we get pregnant, great! If we don't get pregnant after awhile we will look into starting all of the testing.
I am to in this same boat with being nervous now , my husband and i should have our TR funds within the next 3 to 4 weeks and i am becoming a ball of nerves,just last night i told my husband the more i think about it the more butterflies i get in my tummy! LOL.. but i think its more an excitement thing than a scared thing ... I also had a question about the prenatal vit's, is it safe to take any of them as long as there pre-nat vit's? because i know there are some vit's that you are not supposed to take while TTC .. also also is it safe to take the prenatal vit's up until the TR or do they have to be stopped a certain time before?
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Cindy, you were not long-winded at all! Really, this is they ONLY place I can currently get advice that is true and tested, and a place where I fit in;) One doesn't understand unless they are going through this.... No one in my family knows, just me and my hubby...and, since I am always a very open and talkative person, keeping this big thing....I mean REALLY BIG THING under wraps is proving to be the hardest thing of them all! LOL!! Thanks again! Chrissy
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Jenn had some very good pointers! Keeping yourself occupied by preparing, pre-natal vitamins, I got my medications straightened out, looked at what I was eating, the blood work, EKG, surgery dates, my weight, yadda yadda yadda...
I was very anxious and I think my worry almost stopped me from going through with it. My husband said to just take it a step at a time, and with each step we would find out from there where and IF we could proceed. I did just that. Got the ok on my path report, my physical and blood work came back good, establishing an OBGYN went very well, the money came sooner than expected, everything fell into place one step at a time. My last worry was if my tubes could truly be repaired. One doesnt really know until the Dr. gets in there. My surgery was June 4th my wory was put to ease by Dr. Berger. My tubes were repairable. They are short with just 2cm on each side. But let me tell you, I am proud of my 2cm! :)It's like finding gold. Can I put a banner in the front yard? "Eureka! WE FOUND FALLOPIAN TUBES!". It's way more than I expected, and we got further than I had ever thought we would, just one step at a time. TTC will come with time and of course, patience. I hope we can keep the attitude that things will fall into play as God sees fit. I hope I can remember that TTC is not fully in my control. Some of it is, but not all.
The weight part. It's like my Dad told me once which is that if you wait to have children until you have money, you will never have children. LOL! He is right! By the time most people have some financial stability then the are ready for retirement hahaha. I feel like that with my weight. I have been trying to lose weight for the last decade. I was with in weight range for surgery, but I am scared to death I am going to be a pontoon party boat if I get pregnant. But if I waited to get PG until I am my own personal ideal weight, we would never get PG.
Im so long winded, sorry. All that to say, your normal for being anxious. Hang in there. One step at a time. Lots of luck on your journey!!!
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Thanks so much for your advice! I think you are right! I am on overload TLR! I did print the check off list, and now I just need to relax. I am focusing on my health, and getting things done in order. This board, though, has been very helpful, and I know in my heart that things are going to work out just fine no matter the outcome! Thanks!
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Motherbug, Feeling overwhelmed is normal... An important step for you to take time to relax. It sounds like you are in TR overload and you just need a moment to think of all the positive things you are preparing for. If you have any questions you can contact our office.
We all felt this way '' I was worried since 2002 when I thought about it '' wow '' Well now it is all done and as of 05/29/2009 and Now I realize that there was not much to worry about '' I know that reading the board can be a little overwhelming but Just Have Faith that everything is going to be all right' There is a lot of sopport here so just keep your chin up''
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I think we all worried when we first started down this path. There is no way to know what is going to happen and we all want it so much.
For me, the best thing I did was make a list of everything I needed to do and include an approximate time line. That way I was able to take each thing in step and always have something to work on. For me, being pro-active is a big help. Also, there are some things you can do now that will be helpful later. One, start taking prenatals. It's never too soon to get started and you'll want to build up the folic acid for when you start TTC. Also, start taking and charting your temperature and using OPKs. This will give you an accurate view of your cycle and when you ovulate. You'd be surprised how many woman thought that had a regular 28 day cycle with ovulation on CD14 only to find out that wasn't the case - me included. I started this process in March, 2005 and had my TR in August, 2005. By the time I had my TR I had a very different view of my cycle then what I thought and it made it much easier to TTC. Good luck!
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