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Thanks for the prayers. Yes, its the 28th. My parents will have the kids. My parents asked a lot of questions, and concluded if this what both of you want, we will support your decision. At least they weren't part of the bunch who thought we were nuts.
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By the way, as far as people thinking we are nuts, well, that's why we aren't telling anyone either. (Just parents who watched the kids.) The culture we live in now tells women that their number one priority should be themselves, and not that is not compatible with the "inconvenience" of too many kids. They are supposed to find fulfillment in so many other ways... but the number of women who come to believe they have made a mistake after TL is a testament to the fact that our culture is wrong. ~Sarah
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Thanks for the encouragement, Becky! My last baby just turned 6, so I'm really feeling the urgency... but I need to trust God for the outcome. I will put your TR date on my calendar (the 28th,right?) I am keeping you in prayer for good travels, smooth operation, and quick recovery!
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We will pray for you and your DH. This is Becky back again now. When the timing is right-you'll both know. If you prayed and believed proceding with the surgery was the right thing to do, you have come this far for a reason. I know, waiting is hard to do, but it is the best way.
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Thanks, I would appreciate the prayers concerning us, especially my husband. (We are Christians, too!) God really dealt with my heart this past year. And I am ready to trust Him to care for us. I think He is still working on my husband...though we prayed a lot and DH was very supportive of the surgery, he seems to be questioning his own ability to provide now that I've actually had it. I am trying not to pressure him because I want the desire to be his, too, but it makes me sad for now.
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FoxyMom I (Jeff-Becky's Hubby)didn't even give it any thought AT ALL and thought it was quite lame. When the TR was first mentioned I put it off but after much prayer and discussion we realized that it was Gods will & were both quite exited. At first I was "stuck" on the financial part but, when you look at it you sure can't put a price on a child,and God will and has always provided. Now, we want to start trying A.S.A.P.(after TR)We will definately be praying for you and your DH. We Men can be hard headed at times but do come around.
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Wow, Joyful1, that's not funny. I hope he blows those co-workers off!
When you said your husband wants one as much as you now, do you mean that he wasn't thrilled at first? My husband thought I should go ahead with the TR, but now that I've had it, he's asking me to give him "space" before we try! My biological clock is ticking...
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My DH wants a baby now as much as I do, but the guys at work told him he should get a vasectomy done while I'm recovering and not tell me about it. Can you imagine!!?
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My husband and I both decided early on not to open our private lives to anyone but us. I shared only with my mother, and while she was a little skeptical, she was as always supportive.
Ignore anyone that is not supportive and do as your own heart desires. It doesn't matter how old your children are, if you already have one of each, how many you have together or seperately - in the end you alone will live with the regret if you don't take the chance.
Society has changed so much, and so many people have children and then seem to burdened with them. Children are a joy! It's your chance to use every bit of skill, education and love to form a new person lives and make them a productive and active member of our community, society and mankind. I'm not advocating everyone run out and have a million children, however I believe if you can afford it and and your willing to sacrifice your time and own personal desires to raise your children in loving, welcoming homes... then you should follow your heart. Just because someone else does not want to bothered or burderned don't mean it's not the right course for others.
My TR baby is challenging, she's demanding and needy. There are days I'm run ragged! Then I think about how empty and quiet my house would be without her. How bored I would be, and wonder what kind of place this world will be without her. She may be the one that pushes hard for cures, reforms or changes in our lives when I am old. She might may be a trauma surgeon and save lives! She's got her own mind about everything..maybe she'll be the next presiden! How could I ever picture my life without this incredible little person?
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Dval, WOW, you will be there before you know it, Iam so happy for you. Congrats on the weight lose. Ericka got back with me told me 90 days. so i'll wait till the end of Nov. to have my labs done.I know Feb is not really that far away, but when you are waiting to do some thing so important like this it might as well be a year away.lol I am so not a patient person. Misty
I am having my TR Oct. 26 I think it says somewhere on here that our labs are only good for 90 days (if I'm not mistaken) lol I had my lab work done b4 they even knew I was coming I just knew this was the place for me after reading everything about Dr. Berger. (he will be doing mine) Our family had a vacation scheduled for Oct. 25 so it all fell into place. I had a ton of weight to lose. Currently down 30 pounds Which I am super proud of. Feb/March will be here b4 you know it! I know it has flown for me.. EXCEPT this month is creeping by lol
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I know exactly how you feel. We told no one when we were getting our TR done. We already had 8 children together and I regretted my TL right away. I had it done because everyone else thought it was best but deep down we always knew it wasn't. I just had TR baby #5 5 weeks ago for a total of 13 children. Most people are supportive but we got the hardest time from family. My mom the most. Only time will tell if there will be anymore. We will welcome as many as we can have. The way we look at it is we do it oursevles and ask for no help so they really have no say in how many we should or shouldn't have. All of our children are happy and want for nothing. Best of luck to everyone and don't let the negative people get you down.
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Dval,We are hoping to get a Feb or March date.Iam just not sure when to start all the paper work and labs.We cant wait to get started.Have you had your TR done yet?
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That is why we decided not to tell anyone (except about 3 people who were not family!). Even when we get pregnant I am not sure I am going to tell them. Tubals do fail you know! I guess it will depend on what questions they ask because I am not going to lie to them but really what business is it of theirs? We are married adults!!!
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I also know how you are feeling. I just don't uderstand why people have to be rude or judgmental. We aren't asking for any help. Oh well.... This is why we are telling no one that we are actually getting it done. It will be a big 'ol surprise when I tell them I'm pregnant.
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I just knew this was the place for me after reading everything about Dr. Berger. (he will be doing mine) Our family had a vacation scheduled for Oct. 25 so it all fell into place. I had a ton of weight to lose. Currently down 30 pounds 
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