I went to see our primary care manager today. He checked me over, talked to me about the TR and doesnt see any reason that I won't come through the surgery just fine.
But then, he said he felt obligated to talk to me about the risks because of my age. I'll be 38 in October. He gave me stats of 1 in 250 for the baby being born downs syndrome, 1 in 50 for miscarriage, 1 in 50 for ectopic, and said there was increased risk for premature delivery and low birth weight - and asked if I'd considered IVF. Why would IVF be less risk for those same things (other than the ectopic)??? When I asked him, he just looked at me for a minute, chuckled and said I was right, the risk didnt lessen. Jeez.
So, rather than allay my fears, he's got me worrying again - and then, he tells me that I need to relax, calm down, take up meditation or yoga or ti chi (sp) - why is it that the people telling you to relax and calm down are the ones upsetting you????
Just venting, I guess. But I am worried. From everything I had read, the risks he mentioned at my age are slim... yipes.
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GO GINGERD!!!! I'M 43 AND MY TR WAS MARCH 31,04. REMARRIED LAST DEC AND DH HAS NO CHILDREN...HE'S ALMOST 49! (MY MOTHER THINKS I SHOULD HAVE HAD THERAPY INSTEAD OF SURGERY!) HA!! WE GOT PG IN JUNE....M/C'D 2 WEEKS AGO....BUT WE'LL TRY AGAIN. DR.B DOES A FANTASTIC JOB AND YOU'RE IN GOOD HANDS. I'LL SURE KEEP YOU IN MY PRAYERS AND LOL ON TUESDAY. KEEP US POSTED! ME 43 DH 48 DS 27 DS 22 DD 17
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I think I've got you all beat in the age department . . . I am 48 and having my TR done by Dr. Berger on Tuesday, August 31st. Or at least I hope I am. My TL was done in 1980 and the records at both the hospital and the doctor's office have long since been destroyed so I opted for the laproscopy package. My FSH levels were 8.7 in June and 10.0 in July which aren't too bad for an old bag like me! I am counting on genetics being on my side since my dad was born when his mother was 47. Wish me luck.
Me 48 DH 37 DD 26 DS 24 TL 4/1980 TR 8/31/04 I HOPE!
I encourage you to send your operative and pathology reports from your TL for review by Dr. Berger. This information will let you know whether a tubal reversal is a good option for you. If you can't get the records, Dr. Berger can do a screening laparoscopy,as TheMzD pointed out. 58 % of women in your age group (35-39) become pregnant after reversal surgery, so don't give up hope!
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I myself am 41 soon to be 42 in October and had my TL 16 years ago. I am seriously thinking about having a TR done in early spring. I have been thinking about this for several years and have decided this is the year to either do or don't. I do worry about age and risk but I don't want to go through the rest of my life wondering what if. I don't feel too old to raise another and actually am really excited about the idea. Hopefully everything will fall in place.
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Hello ladies, I'm 44, had my TR done 8-17-04 with Dr. Berger.I have three children 27,26,and 19.My family surprised me and is very supportive.My DH and I know my age is a factor but I think with my health being pretty good and all my test results good I have a chance.I feel at times am I ready to do this all over again,but I know me and I will be fine with whatever God choses to do.My DH will still love me and I think a baby at an older age is great and will keep us young at heart.We're so much more knowledgeable and patient.Follow your heart always, thats what I'm doing.Also I got my TL info from the hospital they had to go to micro film to find it,they told me after ten years they put it on film.Good Luck to all of you.....Chris
Welcome!! I'll be 38 in October, my daughters are 19, 18 and 12. I had my tubal the day my youngest was born. My (second) husband (no children of his own) is currently deployed, due home Sept 9th. Our tr is scheduled for Sept 29th.
You arent crazy for wanting this. I have thought of little else for months, waiting for him to get his orders home. My oldest daughter informed me last week that she's 19 and doesnt NEED a baby brother or sister - I agreed - she's 19 yep, but my having another baby or three is none of her business. She is out living her own life, and I'm living mine.
Follow your heart. We are not too old, the testimonials show plenty of women in our age range. And, Dr B does offer a screening package if, like me, you cannot obtain your tubal records. Check into it.
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I am 36..will be 37 at the end of Dec. I had my tubes tied 11 years ago. I had a child when I was 17 * raised her alone until just a couple of years ago. She is 19 now. I was married last month * 4 days later my husband received his orders to be deployed to Iraq. He left just this last Saturday * may be gone for a year....Okay...I am seriously considering having a tubal reversal. I have NO idea what shape my tubes were left in or if will even be possible. I am just starting to research this. My daughter thinks I am INSANE, my husband,however,is ecstatic of the possibility. I called the hospital where I had the procedure done but they do not know yet whether or not they still have my records. Apparently they destroy them after 10 years, so I am waiting to hear back from them.
Am I a crazy lady for wanting a baby after raising a 19 year old? What are the possiblities of having one this late in the game? Am I setting myself * my husband (he has never had kids of his own)up for disappointment?
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To all, I too had my TR at 39, had to come back and get some blockage cleared at 40, so here I am 4 months waiting. TTC and on CD26. I am going to be optimistic because I have faith. I had a HSG done about two months ago,and all was perfectly clear, sending those films soon to Dr. Berger. But, I just know it's all about timing. We are not too old! This is all worth it. And I hope to hear more positive words from everyone! De
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I am 44 yrs old and am thinking of getting a tr done I am a little scared but I would like another child . I have a little problem with my age but so many older women are having children. any suggestions thanks
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Congratulations, Tonja, and keep us posted on HCG's. We have many successful patients over 35 years old. Please let us know if you have any questions. Looking forward to meeting the rest of you soon!
Caryn M. Hertz, MD Director of Anesthesia Chapel Hill Surgical Center
You have a great sense of humor. I like the way you think. A positive outlook is all it takes. Please let me know how it goes, and hopefully I can get a sigh of relief hearing about your experience.
Tonja:
I read that a big CONGRATULATIONS is in order for you! I am so VERY happy for you! Good luck and God Bless.
I was same as you. I am 41 will be 42 in Sept. My now DH is 33. He has no biological children. I had my TR last Sept 17 03. got preg Oct. 17 03 which M/C'd @13 weeks. We have been able to TTC for 7 months since M/C. But found out my R tube may be Blocked in May. So it is posible I only had 3-4 month I could have conceived in this past year. GOOD NEWS!!!! I got my positive HPT this week. I went for my betas on Friday and will get my numbers Monday. So what I am trying to say here. You have to give yourselves every oportunity to share in this blessing, stay optimistic. It could be a short road or a long haul. Right now we are so excited, the last year was worth it.
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and having my TR done by Dr. Berger on Tuesday, August 31st. Or at least I hope I am. My TL was done in 1980 and the records at both the hospital and the doctor's office have long since been destroyed so I opted for the laproscopy package. My FSH levels were 8.7 in June and 10.0 in July which aren't too bad for an old bag like me! ![[Wink]](wink.gif)
I am counting on genetics being on my side since my dad was born when his mother was 47. Wish me luck.![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
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