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Jen - You will be in tip top shape for pregnancy, too! Biggest Loser is inspirational. I was in the best shape I have been in in years when I got my BFP. Pre-TR we had a DD and DS. Our first TR baby was a DS. We were hoping for a DD this time, but God had other plans and we are having a third boy. As much as I wanted a girl, I do love my boys! I am just happy to be having a healthy pregnancy and baby at my age!
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Paragard IUD I do believe. No hormones for me either.
I love being a mother, it's the most amazing thing any of us will ever do. Its this crazy rollercoaster ride. Some days I'm like, lets have 5 more kids, and other days, ok Becca is it.
So I will leave it in the hands of fate, that's what I have decided. I'll just let nature take it's course and see what happens.
We will see. I know Randy would really like one more...and I'm in tip top shape - well almost there. Hired a trainer to get this last little bit of weight off and tone everything for my wedding dress. Frankly - my muscles are screaming right now, Monday was my first session with - I think I'll call her Damion", (jk) Mia is very sweet, but she could work on "The Biggest Loser" show and fit right in with Bob and Jillian.
Jumping back in - in only four little ole months ladies. woo hoo...
Jo Ann congrats on TR baby 2 - how exciting!!! Do you know if its a boy or girl?
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Jen - do you have the Mirena or Paragard IUD? I had the second, because I didn't want hormones of any kind! My SIL had the Mirena and she had completely irregular cycles with it in along with weird spotting episodes. After having it out, she went totally back to normal.
I am 41, pushing 42, and expecting my second TR baby. My CD3 bloodwork (taken last summer) was really good. I also only have one tube (my left is 4.5). I had 2 m/c in between my TR babies (one was suspected e/p, so they took my tube). All four times I O'd on the left side. Never lucky enough to catch the eggie from the other side like you. :-)
September will be here before you know it and getting the IUD out could easily solve all your issues. I'm hoping for a TR baby#2 for you!!
Jo Ann TR 5/30/02 TR baby #1 4/09/04 TR baby #2 due 9/26/09
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Good luck Jen. I will be 43 in July and have been TTC since TR last year 4/14/08. I am hoping I don't have to wait 2 years - I just don't have it in me. You were very blessed to have your daughter. I hope you are able to get that next BFP if you really want it. I've been through all the meds too, but so far no luck. Trying to give it a rest for a while, but its not easy after all the tracking for so long. Enjoy your wedding in September and good luck!
I think I wrote I finally got a period, almost a month to the day of the one I skipped. It was pretty normal. On CD10 I started bleeding again, nothing heavy, just enough to really "bug" you - that lasted 7 more days.
Next month, didn't get a period until CD44 - ok I am having problems tracking the days with this whole messed up plumbing .
Called my doc...she got me in that first time, removed a polyp that was on my cervix - yuck.
Two weeks later I got the most horrible badder infection in the world. Sorry (TMI) I was urinating pure blood w/clots for about 6 hours straight. Labor wasn't that painful and I'm not kidding either WOW.
I've never had this happen before. So we are totally thinking I'm moving into the "CHANGE" time of my life.
So went back to my OB/GYN after I finally started AF on CD3...I just wanted to find out what my FSH was now. I figured, my fertility is done.
Well, it came back at 9...hmmm. She said anything under 15 is totally normal.
Long story short, she thinks my IUD is starting to cause these issues with my period.
So after the wedding this September, it comes out and we'll just play it by ear.
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Jen I know I posted before and I am not in the 40 something club yet but I love reading the post. I wanting to wish you all the best on the big day. I hope to hear one day that you have another little one on the way. It gives me hope. I am now over my one year mark and still no bfp's yet but time is not up yet. Miranda
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Thanks - it's all good advice and I love hearing everyone's stories.
I just skipped a period, I wrote about it in the other post, my first skipped AF in my life without being pregnant. I have an IUD in, but I took pregnacy test to make sure. Randy and I were both a little sad it was BFN.
We are actually having a huge wedding this September - we've put if off for years. I want to wear my dress...and then I'm having the IUD removed - talked to my OB/GYN - she says no problem trying at my age, I'll be almost 43 then. She rocks and is very supportive.
But thinking I was and feeling let down that I wasn't spoke volumes on how I really feel about another baby. We are blessed though, and I won't forget that either. I just don't plan on saying anything to anyone about it this time - I'll just wait until it's too hard to hide if I'm lucky enough to conceive again. lol
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Jen I feel for you. I have no info for you. But I can tell you I understand the hard time. I was on full bed-rest with my first. I put on 80 pounds and took awhile to get it off. Was bleeding and had labor pains every 5-10 minutes the last 3 months non stop. I was only 18 and had little man at 19. My next little one was easier, I still had to watch what I did to get her here. I wish you all the best in what ever you decided to do. Miranda
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I read a great little blurb today that I wanted to share with my new friends on this board;
You can be 25 years old, with young eggs but they are not mature and never amount to a pregnancy or you can be 40 years old with mature eggs and still be very fertile. Stress is a high percentage of WHY women DON'T get pregnant.
Relax, enjoy the aspects of TTC, develop the attitude that 'if it happens, it happens' (of course with little medical intervention involved when need be) but adding stress each month will create more BFN than BFP.
We all worry about age, health, hormones, timing, is it right, am I too old, am I crazy (me guilty) but in our hearts of hearts, that instinct tells us what we want and I always say, 'follow that little voice inside' and you or we will be okay.
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ardub, I, too, am 45 and my DH of 3 years is 42, which no children of his own. I have a DD from a previous marriage who's 24. My TR was 9-15-08, and this was our first month to try, but AF showed up, so on to next month! I have an ovulation monitor on the way, so we're giving it a try with this now...good luck to you all!
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this is the first time writing. I do not think you are nuts!! if you have the love to give then do whats in YOUR heart. Every pregnancy is different. I just turned 45 yup 45!! how crazy am I? I don't care what people say. I am with a man who has no children (he is 42) we went to dr. bergers in may (reversal) from NH and if we have a miracle happen then it is in gods hands (let him decide). I have 2 boys 23,17 and 13. Each pregnancy different, I feel great we only tried this month don't know results yet but talk to god cuz he has our plans set. good luck!! annette
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I am younger (I'll be 35 for the birth of #4 if we manage to conceive next spring), but also struggling with some issues with all of this. I got pregnant easily (Thank God!!!) but I had a very terrible pregnancy with hyperemesis and pre-term labor. I kept failing the glucose tests but never turned into full-blown GD either. I am wanting another baby terribly at this point, but I do know that I might have to go through all that again.
I look at it this way...I had a difficult pregnancy, and a colicky, non-sleeping child. She is still extremely difficult and headtstrong. It's a good thing she's cute or we would have sold her on Ebay by now!! LOL! When the next baby comes along, it will either be the same (which I know I can handle because I've already been there, done that...) or it will be easier. Either way it will work out.
In your situation, I would make no attempt to prevent pregnancy, but I don't think I would go with meds again either. I know that I have made a decision that it either happens or it doesn't. I'm not going through testing, meds, and all that craziness. My heart couldn't handle it. It is the same decision I made right after my TR and I still feel the same way.
It's such a tough thing to think through with so many conflicting emotions. I know that I have been all over the board about it for the last year, and I am just finally secure in my decision to try again, I wish you much luck with that one! It's hard! Just talk with Randy and lay everything out on the table. That's what I did with Jim and I feel much better now!
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I totally agree with Tracey. My easiest pg was when I was at my oldest.
Keep us posted on your decision.
I lost my dad suddenly 4 weeks before my TR baby was born. The moment I saw her in the OR - healthy and beautiful - I looked up at the ceiling and said "She's beautiful Dad, and she's everything you thought she would be!"
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I hate when the doctors make you feel "old" once you are 40. I had my easiest pregnancy at 40. My sister in law had her third at 41. My friend just had her 3rd at 44. Doesn't everyone know by now that 40 is the new 30!! (LOL) If you ultimately decide to try for another...I know plenty of women who have no issues doing it over 40!
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You get a lot of good (and always well-meaning) advice on this board but ultimately it is your choice and one you will have to live with forever. I think you have a great approach..wait until you are ready (if you get there), see what happens and do not rush into anything while you are still unsure. Sometimes, for me, this board, while in many ways is a godsend..can stress me out..Being surrounded by other hormonal women (LOL) trying so hard to get PG month after month. There is so much support here but it is mixed with such raw emotion and angst, tempered with concern for each other, personal stories/opinions,etc...it gets your mind racing and it is easy to get wrapped up in the journies of the other wonderful women here..Being on the board...for like a nano-second after my TR I thought about whether I might want to have another one while I still can (I am 43!)..Granted it was a fleeting thought but..I think being in this environment can get you so caught up in the emotion of it. You have to step back and truly think about what is really realistic in your own life. Give yourself a break. While it is wonderful to think about having another baby in your lives and babies are a blessing...it is perfectly OK to decide that your family is already complete and that you are content with what you have. That should not make you feel guilty! I honestly believe if it is meant to be it will be..Good luck and keep us posted.
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