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Jen I say GO 4 IT too!!!! I LOVE the pictures of Becca and I started out following your PG with her.... I also say why wait until Jan to have that IUD taken out... DO it today and lets just see what happens (of course I am praying you are PG before Jan) *SHHHHHHH* Like Tanya said we will be here to support you all the way!!!!
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What I keep going back and forth on is age, and I know it's just a number - it's all about health and how you feel. Then I'll think - God forbid something happens to Randy and again I'm on my own. I really am a "the glass if half full" kind of person, but somedays i just freak myself out.
I raised my older ones pretty much as a single mom, lots of help from my family though - thank my lucky stars that I had them.
I have an appointment in January for my yearly - and that is my date to decide one way or the other. If I decide to go for it, then I will have my IUD removed and just leave it at that, if it happens, was meant to be, if not, ok then as well...(so I think now anyway). Goodness gracious.
Geez what to do, what to do. Ahhhh.....
Thank you all though, you are all so wonderful.
Linda sending a big prayer up for you.
I swear after two years I had given up. My aunt who I loved dearly died suddenly of a heart attact, she was 57. I remember standing in my bathroom after AF should her ugly face yet again. I said listen Sheila, I know you are up there watching over all of us, could you put in a good word for me, just a little help here plz plz plz. One month later my first BFP. Looked up and first thing I said when I saw the stick + was thank you Sheila you rock! Tell the Big Guy thanks for me too.
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Dear Jen I am 43, soon to be 44 and would love to have one more. Everyone thinks i am too old or should be happy with what i have , but there is still this part of me that feels deep down it is meant to be. I have so many things against it, my age ,my husband and who knows maybe my own body which seems to not want a pregnancy. I am having weird pains again this month and while i wasn't going to be too hopeful, it is hard to face another period knowning it failed again. I wish you good luck and follow your heart, i believe it is in God's hands.
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Jen - After reading your entire post one line stuck out to me -
QUOTE "Part of me really would like too though????"
Not every pregnancy will be the same. You may well find this next tcc and pregnancy different from any other you've experienced. When any woman says "She really wants another" it always tells me she's not put that part of her life behind her, and if you don't at least grab that chance and go with it - there could be a life of regrets later.
Your healthier now, and in better shape. Your little girl is going to be 2, and it's a time when having another baby might be better than ever.
If you decide to try - go into this with your limits upfront. If you want to go as far as meds/injectibles - do so. If you want to draw a line at a time or procedures do that. At least you both know what you will or won't do and when you can both say enough if it doesn't go the way you planned.
Your very wise to look at the reality of ttc, but remember nothing ventured/nothing gained. I say go for it, and we'll be here to support you all the way.
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Hi Jen,Since you feel you may as well want another baby but just don't want to go through all the meds and such.Enjoy your husband on the ovulation days and leave the rest to God Wish you and yours the very best.
I am 42 and have two TR baby girls ages 2 1/2 & 3 1/2 my heart still wants another at times.I just leave it to God
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It is a very hard decision when the journey has been a rough on the proverial roller coaster...I truly think the BEST thing to do is to sit down and have an all defenses down honest heart to heart about both of your wishes, hopes, dream and fears about trying again and what it will mena to you as individuals, to you as a couple and as a family too. Sometimes, past experience leaves us like a deer in the headlights..unable to consider moving at all..I had a train wreck of a delivery with my second child..Emergency C-S against my will, panic attack (never had one of those ever) in the delivery room...6 weeks early, 1 month of hard time for my son in the NICU with IVs in his head, feeding tubes, meds, etc..etc. I lived in fear every day for his first year of life that he would die. Thank god he is a healthy happy 5 year old now..but then...yikes...The thought of ever going through that again was unfathomable to me. 1 year later I got pregnant by accident (BC failure)..I was 39, content with the size of my family and petrified about going through another nightmare...It turned out to be the easiset of my 3 PGs, longest gestation of the 3 and the biggest baby:8 lbs 10 oz and the easiest recovery (3rd C-S) ever (except for the subsequent rampaging PTLS). I can't imagine not having that little guy in my life..but it was horrible scary..I think you just need to decide what is in your heart and you need total agreement on which road you take..so there is no resentment later or regrets...It has to be a decision where you and hubby work through all your fears and concerns and get down to the bare bones of what you both really want and can live with. It has to be a mutual decision one way or another but total honest communication is key!
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TR 1/16/04 BFP on 1/26/06 Rebecca Jordan born 10/04/06 (8lbs 12oz)
My road trying to conceive was a hard one, BFN every month, Clomid/Femara, IUI's, then on to injections - after injections only produced one follicle on the closed tube side (HSG results)
January 26, two years after TR that I got my very first BFP. We weren't suppose to do it this cycle either advised our RE that morning. Right tube possible blocked, only one follicle on that side (etopic was the RE's worry). But we didn't listen, we had been drinking that night, a pity party pretty much. Forgot about what she said.
Got pregnant, a million to one chance that cycle. To get crazier - started to bleed, thought it was miscarriage - nope baby was fine, bleed all the way to around 7 months. Stress about that, wow, is to say the least...OMG.
Now she is going to be two in a few days. Randy wants to have another one. (I joke and tell people that he is now buried in the backyard up to his waist). Part of me really would like too though?????
Seriously though, I know I don't want to go through all that again. I know a lot of you relate, I was just lucky, very lucky to conceive, and go on to have a healthy baby.
I need advice - Everyone I know, including my mom thinks I'm nuts - Even my BFF. I can't even bring it up to them. They are worried about me, I gained 60+lbs and my body didn't handle it well. Hey when you are bleeding and your OB says don't do anything, trust me, I didn't do anything. I turned 40 16-days after she was born. I've lost 40lbs and I'm in better shape now then ever??? But it was a tough recovery, my third c-section etc...and I just lost the weight this last year...eating what you want is nice and I got used to it.
I love Randy, so very much, and would do anything for him. But I'm just not sure I can go through it again, and who's to say I will get lucky a second time, and I don't want anymore drugs, injections. Plus all the testing because they consider us so Old.
I trust all of you so much, and just would like to know what you all think? I'm at such a crossroads here and that bio clock is giving me a headache.
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