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I changed my mind after my third daughter turned one! That was about 3 years ago. I to had horrible pregnancies and suffered from Hypermesis. I felt pressured by family to have my tubes tied. Although my pregnancies are tough for a few months the end result is so worth it. I have not scheduled my TR yet, but hope to do so by the spring!
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I liked the idea of having more kids, but pregnancy was an absolute nightmare for me. It took until my kids were eleven and thirteen for me to have forgotten how bad it was enough to have the TR. Can't keep water down till I am four months pregnant, and it causes depression and total upheaval of my life, my household, my relationships, and the lives of those who depend on me. Yes, I'd like to do it one more time. LOL. Dancy
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OMG Anita! I felt the same way and do you know what else I was thinking? I was looking out the hospital window thinking that the next time I am in the hospital it will not be for something good...lol how depressing is that? I think it was a combination of hormones and the TL.
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I regretted the decision to have a TL almost immediately. I had it done when I had my 3rd child. I remember holding him when he was a baby and crying because I knew he was my las child. I felt terrible.
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Thanks, Rachel! I am not scared of the surgery. I have been on this board close to a year and I have confidence that if I ever make up my mind then I will be in good hands at Chapel Hill. Any surgery is a risk, and I just want to be very, very sure that I want to go through with it. Not to mention that my youngest (or the others for that matter) can not do without me lifting them for a whole month and they are wayyy over 15lbs! Thank you for the info! nichole
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Maybe I wasn't clear...after I had the TL, I regretted it very soon - my family dr told me to think about why I wanted the TR (I had the TL after having had my 4th miscarriage and my husband's dad was dying at the time - very stressful for everyone)She suggested I may be grieving over the loss of the child and my grief may subside. While my grief did subside after a year, my desire to have more children did not. That said, if they told me to wait for one year and think about having the TL to begin with - I never woul dhave done it either!
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It took me ten years to regret it but that's how long it took me to find my husband. It wasn't until I met him that I wanted another baby...maybe 2 ;-)
I don't think it matters how long it took to regret your decision. I think the important thing is recognizing that you do and then working to find a solution. Dr. B is a great solution!
As you can see, you are not alone in regretting your tubal ligation very soon after having it. Many women change their minds and want to have more children, but others realize that they just "don't feel whole anymore" after the TL and have a deep need to rectify their mistake. Whatever the reason, Dr. Berger is here to help!
While TR is in fact major surgery, requiring general anesthesia, it is a short procedure, and you will return to the hotel afterwards rather than staying in a hospital. Nearly all patients find post-operative pain very manageable, and we see very few complications of any kind. Most women are able to return to work in 5 - 10 days. So, although this is a big decision requiring careful thought, I hope you will not allow fear of surgery to stand in your way. Please feel free to call or e-mail us with any questions or concerns. Best wishes,
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I started investigating TR when my youngest was 3 months old. I understand about the not liking the pregnant part! Although I enjoyed it the last time more than the others (3 girls all together). I have a friend who keeps telling me that it is major surgery to have a TR and to really know if I want to do it. That is what's keeping me from going through with it. I don't want to be impulsive and then feel like I made yet another mistake. I will say that even if I decide not to have any more children, I think just feeling 'whole' again would make a world of difference. Long story short...no you are not crazy! lol
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I knew after two months. This is what my dr told me - wait a year and if I was still feeling the same way then it wasn't just "in my head". It ended up taking me 4 years to be able to have the TR.
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