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I just turned 35 on this past Sat and I am scheduled for TR on Tuesday August 19. I was 22 when I tied my tubes. At that time I felt it was the only way to prevent me form having babies back to back. If I could do it all over, I would have chosen another way. Maybe IUD, or even using the good ole condom:) Now I have finally found happiness and my fiance' has no kids. I am so prayerful that I will be one of those that are pregnant within the month blessed to be carrying a healthy and strong baby. Good luck to you all and prayers are lifted.
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I remarried 5 years ago and my DH does not have children. At 41 I am older, but look forward to having a chance to be a mom again. I liked Dr. Berger's You Tube video about hope as that is what it is all about.
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I'm scheduled for surgery for September 18. I'm doing it because my husband has no children and I have two of my own. It would be an honor to give this great man a baby of his own.
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I had my TL because my dh didn't want any more children...10 years later I found the Lord for the 2nd time and my dh found Him for the first time and HE decided we should have more (knowing that I wanted more). We became foster parents first, then we decided on the TR. I am now a mom of 10..no TR babies yet, but still trusting the Lord. We will celebrate 20 years of marriage in September. Louise
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This is great support to women who are considering tubal reversal. I think many of our patients feel like they are alone until they find our Web site and read the stories and posts from women who are in similar situations. Thanks for sharing yours.
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This is a wonderful topic. Many of our patients who come for tubal ligation reversal share these exact sentiments. Both Dr Berger and Dr Monteith are advocates for patient education, as is evident in their many blog posts. Let me refer you to one of them in particular which discusses informed consent for tubal ligation
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I remarried and my dh has no children and we would like to have one toghether.I have 4 children we would like to add one more to our family. Jamilah
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I think that this is helpful for all of those out there that have changed their minds about conceiving a child again. It is great to know that there is hope out there! Rhonda
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Hi, I had my tubes tied when I was 22 after the birth of my son, and if I had it to do over, I would do it again in a heartbeat. I believe that it was Gods will that I stop at two with my first husband, otherwise, it wouldn't have stuck and I would have gotten pregnant again. I chose to have my tubes untied to have a baby with my amazing husband, and again feel that if I get pregnant that too will be His will. I don't feel like I made a mistake having them tied, I work with what God gives me at the time, and as life changes, I roll with those changes. Steph
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I am another who remarried and wanted a family with my husband who didn't have any of his own, thanks to Dr B we have a beautiful 15 month old daughter and I am almost 10 weeks pg with TR baby #2.
My first husband was actually the one who wanted the TL and he signed the papers, He decided "we" were done having children because we had just had 2 within 10 1/2 months. I actually cried as I was going in for the operation because I knew it was a mistake.
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I remarried - DH has no children. I hold no regrets for TL. It served its purpose 15yrs ago when I was 23 in an unstable marriage. The Dr did try to talk me out of it, but I was determined. DH married me anyway knowing I said I did not want anymore children. Then one day, two year later in 2007 it was revealed to me that this was the kind of LOVE that God had in store for me. So here we are TTC. I believe that everything happens for a reason so I hold no regrets. Oh, I did not suffer PTLS. However, fibroids were found and removed during the process.
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Chloe, I often wonder the same thing. Why don't doctors trust us enough to be FULLY informed. I my opinion this "lack of information" is disrespectful and demeaning. I teach my children that if you have to hide, then you are being dishonest. It seems that all too often doctors hide the FULL Truth from us. Are they afraid that "if" we are fully informed that we will choose otherwise? Are they trying to replace "our" free will, with their own?
I'm sure that this is not in every case BUT it does seem to be a little more often than not. In my case my OB lied to my dh and convinced him that I would die if I had another baby....my poor dh took that bait and betrayed me. My dh told me that "he" would NOT stay with me if I had another baby.... Well our marrage suffered.. He (my dh) regretted the TL, the day after the surgery and I will never trust him in the same way ever again. BUT fast forward to today and we have both healed and reconnected tahnks to the TR, which was in a way repairation for the damage done.
I would LOVE to have another baby BUT..."WE" have already received the biggest Blessings, our marriage is whole again. Thanks be to God!
I think Doctors support TL, like the rest of the world does! Our world goes around based on planning and b/c! We used to be a nation that was open to God's will for our families, and now we plan children for when and if they can be "afforded" or "planned". For me (I can only speak for dh and I and our relationship with God) this means a lack of faith on our part. That's where we were 3 years ago, and God caused a tremendous conviction in my heart! I'm actually thankful for the TL, as it caused a great change in me, that has left me more open to life than I likely would have been without!
More than even desiring another child (which I greatly do!) I want to be a tool for God's work. Again, for me, I can't claim I am just that, when I don't trust Him to provide what's best for me and my family! So, dh and I have to offer up ourselves for Him!
Whatever methods of family planning, b/c, assisted reproduction, as well as all other choices for their families are between them and God. I don't claim to speak for others, nor do I pass judgement. However, IVF most certainly for me isn't restoring my body to God's Will, so that part wasn't an option. It could have brought us a child, but I wanted relief of this tremendously oppressive heart burden-that I laid on myself by altering my body to prevent God's blessings.
Doc's will likely get more aggressive with b/c and sterilization as the world pushes the idea that having more than 1 or 2 kids is selfish because of things like "global warming" and not being able to spoil each child!
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