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trulyblessed, i hear what your saying. I have posted earlier that I take responsibility for my TL. It was a huge mistake. I don't blame anyone else but myself and my DH. I believe I created this condition I am in. I feel blessed to be led to Chapel Hill! I can't wait to feel whole again and pray that God will bless us with a little one..or two! Thanks for that word.
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While God can create fertility in an infertile womb, he didn't make your womb infertile, you did that yourself. So in the end he is giving you an opportunity by blessing Dr Berger and his staff to undo what you did. This isn't something that God did to you, it is something you did to yourself because he gives you 100% control over your own body. So really your faith in God should be strong because he has lead you to a person and place that grace you with his love through their actions and words. I am on my own journey to repair what I undid and I take total responsibility for it, God didn't do this to me, I did. He saw fit to guide me to Chapel Hill.
If this opinion upsets people, I apologise, for that is not intended. But I do believe in putting responsibility where it needs to be. Too many times people put the blame on someone or something else and it has lead our country down a path that is appalling and pathetic.
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My ob/gyn ordered an US, biopsy, bloodwork, you name it. Yet I was never diagnosed with anything! He suggested a hysterectomy for dysfunctional uterine bleeding! I have occasional flooding sometimes, thats it. no pain, no nothing. No bleeding between cycles either. Bloodwork said no signs of menopause. Anyway.. dumb me.. I scheduled a hysterectomy for Sept 4th 08. After scheduling, I asked myself "why!?". So I prayed and then cancelled it. Well my yearly appt was Oct 30th 08. I told him I want TR. He stumbled for words. I said, "I have lived most of my married life with this regret. I just want my body back,and have more kids!" He then went on about the age thing. He later changed his tune when he saw I was serious. I asked him if he thought I was healthy enough. He pulled out my post op report from my TL and said yes..I only removed a half inch and you didnt have any complications. You are healthy enough physically and mentally, you are a good candidate. WHAT!!! He had me scheduled for a hysterectomy 2 months earlier!! Crazy! and what is crazier is that my AF problems are from my TL! why wont my insurance co cover that! they would rather you had a hysterectomy or ablation. does not make sense to me.
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ajherr....It's funny my Dr. had his nurse call me to say that Dr.B wouldn't be able to do it and since I was so old[42] that the chances of down's syndrome was possible, I called Chapel Hill and the nurse says that is [not accurate] and I told her you talking my talk and I just blew off my Dr. and when I do conceive he will not be my Dr. his record of helping me with tr was all negative and I don't think he would be for my best interest!!!!
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I realize you have many opinions already, but I wanted to chime in. It does take a leap of faith to "go for it" pretty much in anything we do!!! If we had cancer or a broken bone or something else wrong we are taking a leap of faith going for surgery...I mean ultimately God could heal us without the surgery right??? He has given many doctors the ability to fix what is wrong, and Dr B and Dr M have been blessed with the ability to restore womens bodies. Even after the surgery we have to live by faith that God has a plan for all of us..though it may not be the plan that we choose for our lives...HE KNOWS BEST!!! With God on your side you either have a 100% chance of getting pregnant and carrying full term or you have a 100% percent chance of not getting pregnant at all...whether you choose to believe it or not...your life is in Gods hands!!! AND THATS THE BEST PLACE IT COULD BE!!! God is awesome!!! I have been 3 1/2 years since my TR without even one BFP yet...I have gotten a little discouraged at times, but I just keep going knowing that He has a plan. I don't know why I haven't gotten pregnant, but ultimately there is nothing I can do about it..and getting mad isn't going to get me pregnant any faster. I would love more than anything to carry another baby, but I will wait for Gods timing. Go get that surgery and LIVE!!! You will be blessed just by the surgery itself...feeling whole again!! God Bless you in your journey!!!
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Awesome. Thanks for that. My brother told me yesterday that I need to just GO! He said you can't put a price on a life..and he is sure that this is God's plan. I agree. My ob/gyn felt the need to explain the risks of down syndrome as I will be 38 in Nov. God is in control and he does not make mistakes when he creates. We all have a purpose in life.
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ajherr....I would say it is still faith because you still have to believe that Dr. B or Dr. M can do it...I waited for 14yrs. because I wanted a miracle from the Lord and I knew He was capable of doing it! I went to Drs. and they would say the chance is slim to none my dr. even told me my fimbria was gone...but one day 10yrs after his negativity I typed in tubal reversal and here pops up Chapel Hill, I just started crying and The Lord confirmed this is the place to go....He actually said the door is open and walk therein....now I must tell you ...when the dr. said the fimbria was gone the night before his great discovery I had a dream and the lady said the fimbria was still intack I held on to that for 10yrs...well when I had my surgery my op reports says fimbria is attached and healthy...I said all that to say God is always in the blessing business and He doesn't move like we always expect...but I can truly say He does moves and however He opens the door for us to be able to conceive ...walk therein...sorry for going on and on but I know He led me to CH.
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It could happen without surgery, but for me it was like I happened upon Dr. Berger. After that things just happened. A 14 day long AF told me enough was enough I was in horrible shape from TL. After I scheduled things all fell into place, like puzzle pieces, everyone who knows us, knows. It was uncanny how it all clicked. So it was a for sure, we were going forward, there was no denying what we were supposed to do, where we were being led. At first it was seeming like a leap of faith, a risk, but as things fell into place, the leaping part just fell away, it was what we were supposed to do, we had full confidence in it. Even my brother said, how can you deny this you just have to go look how it is now, I said yeah weird huh??? We are meant to have a baby out of this. We did lose 2 but #3 is perfect so far, I'm 4 months along. I am pregnant, but every month before the preg after getting TR my AF was 5 days long.... A good thing. I have my life back, I feel physically so much better. AND we are going to have a baby too:)
Ajherr if it's anything like me the signs will be there, loud and clear no denying. When it is time you will know without a doubt. There will be no question of what you are supposed to do. It will be clear as day, everything will lay down like a nice smooth path in front of you with no resistance anywhere if it's like how it happened with us! Hang in there and pay attention. Dr. Berger is the best so when it's time, you know right where to go!
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