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Just so everyone understands, we are caring for our own. I don't want anyone to read Mary's comments (because she is allowed to make them) and think that having a lot of children means families are irresponsible.
Since I believe in all of Scripture, I believe that it is our responsibility to work or we don't deserve to eat. Our children are well cared for, and their futures are strong. We just have different ideas about what "needs" are, than a lot of the world, and like my husband, our children will work for their education rather than be handed freebies their whole lives. We don't believe certain things are "needed", and therefore we live within our means.
My husband went into the Army for the GI bill, and subsequently worked 2 jobs to put himself through a private college with honors on a double major..so we have a very good and realistic grasp on how we should care for our kids. We have plenty of "faith and belief" that things will work out in the end-it's God's promise. However, that doesn't mean we sit back and wait for some cosmic vending machine to pave our way.
Just wanted to make sure people don't believe the false idea that large families are irresponsible or that they are somehow socially inept because they expect others to care for their responsibilities. Many of the best families I know have more than 5 children on 1 income and their dollar stretches just fine to raise children that are excellent and centered productive members of society.
I hope all you ladies get the desires of your heart. God Bless!
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At the beginning of my TR journey, my DH and myself wanted 2. Now, 2 yrs later and only one BFP (ectopic) we would settle for 1 Tanya, I was like you.. had the TL based on "then" and curcimstances changed for me. At this stage in my life, I am in a better position to care for one or more. I have 2 children already, both grown (18 and 19) and having the TL was the smartest and most responsible thing to do after my 2nd child. I have a hard time seeing people having more children than they can care for, financially and emotionally. Some have the outlook that things just take care of themself and don't think of their children's futures. Remember, "a man that cannot care for his own is worse than a man without faith". So, we can't just expect to sit back and "hope or believe" that our kids will be taken care of.. we have to provide for them. *Getting off of my soapbox* Wishing all the best
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I would have to say as many as I possibly could as I think being a mother was the most enjoyable and rewarding part of my life. Sadly to say I think God has given me my answer as after almost 4 years we have yet to conceive a viable pregnancy. I am 45 and I have came to the realization God has other plans for me.
I extend my warmest wishes and blessings to all of you that have been blessed with a baby I had only prayed I would get one more chance but I am living my happiness through you as I see your photos of your new little ones.
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I do not have any TR babies yet, but when I do, I am almost (I said almost) convinced of having a bunch. LOL!! It really depends on how I handle having little ones all over again.
That's interesting what you said about going through the change. From all I have read, it can be very hereditary. It tends to follow your mother in regards to when the first period comes and when the change happens.
My mom also began experiencing changes in her mid 30's and was in the throws of menopause at 40 and stopped having periods all together at 42.
Her mother was about 1 year later on all of it, but still period free by 43 or 44. I'm looking forward to that. To me, God made each stage of our lives for purpose. It will be nice after having had several babies to be on to the next stage...whenever it may happen...but I hope it gives us a few years so we can have more!
I'm praying you are blessed with a healthy BFP very soon!
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We would love one little girl..but we'll take what the Lord gives us. I sometimes think I would like to have 2..since all of mine r teens almost..I don't really want a little one growing up alone..DH really doesn't put any input in on how many he just knows he wants babies..lol
Dec. 19th puts us 6mths past TR and no BFP as of now.
For me our first sticky bean will be a surprise I don't want to know the sex until I give birth. On the other hand DH thinks he needs to know he said he don't know if he can go 9mths with all of that stress of not knowing..My sister tells me all the time when I get pregnant and have my u/s to have them call her with the sex so she can be buying things up..Everybody always wants something different..
Also I don't know how much baby makin time we have I am 33 and my mom went through the change at 35 so hopefully I don't also!! I don't know how that works if it's something u would take after ur mother or something that only ur body does at its own pace!
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We have one TR baby - Lydia Grace will be 11 months old on Dec. 9th. We both want one more but we'd like them to be at least 3 years apart. 2 is definitely our limit. I'm not sure which of us will get fixed after the next one. I never had the PTLS that many have talked about and enjoyed 10 years of birth control without thought. DH is a little nervous at the idea of a vasectomy but agreed that I shouldn't have to go through another surgery.
We are personally convicted about hormonal b/c, but we will use NFP to space while nursing. I don't evaluate what others do, as it is between them and their spouse and God (if they believe there is one)..it's way too personal for others to make decisions or judgments on!
We know we don't have to worry about money, as God provides all we need. We will have 5 when this baby is born, and our children are loved and have plenty of time spent with them individually. I don't buy all the new age junk about money, overpopulation, time and making sure you just have one or two so they grow up to know how important they are, LOL! I am proud we are raising Christ's army.
My husband is 37 and I am 31, and they are all our children together. I will be nearly 32 when this baby is born, so I could have a good 10 years of child bearing left. It's all up to God.
I'm thankful for the conviction that is now in my heart about this matter, as I have come to realize that children is one of the ways God has changed me and will continue to do so. It's hard to be "me centered" and selfish when homeschooling 4 children and seeing God reflected in their nature!
You ladies take care and God Bless all of you and your lil' ones!
Andrea TR 7/30/08 15 weeks with TR baby #1 EDD 5/28/09
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We only wanted one from the get go, and we got our wish on May 13th, 2008. After a long year of ttc, and one devestating loss at 10 weeks - I knew as soon as I got my sticky BFP that there was no way I'd go through the whole ttc thing again.
We already had two together, and given the age differences and our ages (we are both 37) we didn't change our minds. We had the TR simply to increase our family size, a choice we had made years earlier based on our situation THEN. Three was always my design and we were blessed to finally have three.
I had another TL when I had my c-section, and while I was encouraged not to have more children that was not the ultimate reason at all. We were simply done with this chapter of our life, and wanted to focus on raising and not having more children. I never had any PTLS either, and didn't want to fool with birth control or it's side-effects either.
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I am 28 weeks pregnant with TR baby #1 and it is likely the only one we'll have, but if we have a #2, that would ok too At 40, I'm not likely to have a whole lot more...
I am 8 weeks pg with #2, this will also be our last. This will be #7 for us (2 for dh). I have 4 teenagers and an 11 year old besides my tr baby.
I will have another tl after this baby. I did not have any adverse symptoms from my previous tl, and did not have any problems with PTLS, we purely wanted to add to our family, that was the reason for our tr. Now I will go back to my no thought b/c. Some people may get their feathers ruffled at the mention of another tl, but what works for one may not work for others, so to each their own.
It should be interesting to see how many are on #2, 3 or more.
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I am 26 weeks pg with #2, She will be my last, We were hoping to be blessed with 2 all along so they would be close in age and playmates. Now we are (TY Dr B) She is #5 for me, my 5th daughter everyone keeps asking if we will keep trying for a boy, but no, I am happy with I have, DH has always wanted 2 biological children and now he has them.
I am 37 he is 40, it's not that old but old enough where we just want to enjoy the ones we have. And honestly these are some scary times financially we are living in now, I know where there is a will there is a way, but I don't want to stretch the pocketbook and further.
DH has decided to get the snip, We both agreed all along that I would never have a TL again.
So back to my question, How many do/will you have or want to have?
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