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I to am very scared about telling my OB/GYN. He does not believe that PTLS exists even after having to perform a D and C to stop bleeding after 6 months of bleeding. He is an awesome Dr. and I feel very comfortable with him I would not want anyone else to deliver my children- he is one of those Dr.'s that knows you by your first name and does not have to check the chart at every apt- he calls at home to check on me and he is so caring- I plan to convince him that PTLS is real. I realy do not think he will think that the TR is a good thing- especialy since me and my husaband do not exactly want more children and birth control never worked for us (I got pregnant 3 times on BC), but as both me and my DH have told him we would rather have 100 more kids than live with the PTLS. Don't get me wrong if I get pregnant after the TR it will be a joyace occasion- we are just not going to "try" to have a baby.
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patti - I'm sure your OB doesn't mean to be negative, sadly so many OB's don't think PTLS actually exists as women describe it because there is little research and data to support it. Sad, but true.
Many women here (Momzilla for one) have experienced such relief from PLTS after TR, while I myself was fortunate not to have it - I believe that it must exist and TR does provide some if not complete relief from the symptoms.
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Well, I just got back from my ob/gyn appointment for my annual exam. I told her about me planning a TR. She was very supportive of the TR if I was planning on having more children, but if I was planning on having a TR for the PTLS she was not. She put me on birth control pills (which I am only going to take until I have my TR). She said to think about my reasons for the TR and let her know in a few months. She said that even with the TR, it might not help with the PTLS. I think she was very open minded about everything. She listened to everything I said to her. She just wants me to make the best choice for me.
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My MD was great, BUT I also didn't tell him until afterward. I just wrote to the hospital with my personal identifying data to get my OR reports.
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Patti4kids, like Erika stated, being honest with your doctor is the best way to go. It's important to know that your doctor will be supportive of you after your surgery so that when you do become pregnant you will know that he will be ok with following our pregnancy testing protocol. If he isn't supportive, I would suggest finding someone who will be.
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It's your body and you are entitled to the right to make the decisions regarding what you do with it, including having a tubal reversal. I understand that you want to approach your doctor with the sense that you two are working together, but when you give the doctor the impression that you are seeking his/her approval in some way for the decisions that you have about having it done and wanting more children- you open the door to possibly being judged. The perception needs to be changed here - Having the reversal was your decision, not something that you had to have permission from your doctor to do and not something that you and your doctor decided together. It's not like something that you have to gear up to tell your husband... like you've spent money from the joint checking account on an expensive designer purse that you really didn't need that affects the family's finances(insert any example here). You go in there and tell your doctor that you had it done, what you expect from him/her, and own your body! If you run into a negative reaction then find another doctor. Medical care is too expensive to waste with a doctor who seems to make it more difficult because he doesn't agree with your choices, again- it's your body, and sometimes time is too precious to dink around with a doctor who isn't on board. You should never be made to feel unworthy (in any way) of wanting to have another child, if that is what you choose. As with any purchase you make in life in whatever fashion(in this case, a reversal from Chapel Hill) you want the biggest bang out of your buck. Chapel Hill is the best- it's far cheaper, Dr Monteith & Dr Berger are the most skilled, the recovery time is shorter, has the highest level of customer satisfaction in regards to how you're treated, and with the highest pregnancy success rates. So, if your doctor is offended that you went elsewhere... he has no right to be. You made the smartest choice. Goodluck girl!!
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My first OB performed reversals, but infrequently. He didn't seems as willing to want to talk about his success rate either, just simply it had worked for several of the ladies. No numbers or specifics. He also required a SA and complete medical for my dh, which I didn't like either. It was like he was writing the rules to make it difficult. He also harped about my age and time since my TL. I think he was initially very unhappy that I didn't consider using him. However, he required a 3 day hospital stay and my insurance didn't cover it. Ultimately, I ended up changing OB's due to insurance, but I think I would have ended up having too because it became awkward.
I was having the TR regardless, and frankly he didn't seem to get I couldn't afford upward of 12K for a surgury and hospital stay.
Honesty is the best policy and if he won't get onboard with you, then I would switch to someone who will.
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Patti4kids, Be honest with your doctor. Explain to him your desire. He may surprise you and be understanding. However, if he is not, remember that ultimately the decision is yours. You have to do what is right for you.
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TL is a voluntary thing so I am sure your doctor will not be offended that you want to reverse his handy work because you now have regrets...It is no reflection on him. Be honest and share your feelings. I hope you find he supports you.
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My OB did my TL and he told me to call CHTRC when I called the office looking into a TR. Just tell the truth. It is better to find out now if your OB is ok with it instead of in the time of need. I wish you all the best. Miranda
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My obgyn thought it was absolutely cool and is 100% on board with following the directions of Dr. Monteith to the letter...so...there are good ones out there. If you do not get the reaction you want/need from your doctor then I would advise shopping around. You will find a good "fit." Good luck!
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I'd be honest. The TL he performed on you was elective, and perhaps your situation has changed. He's got no reason to be unhappy with you. Many doctors are skeptical of the procedure, but otherwise I'm not sure why they would mind. If your surgury is successful, he'll be delivering another patient in 9 months.
If your OB performs reversals - then you might feel a bit awkward, but otherwise I'd just tell him your having the TR and how excited you are about the possibilities.
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I had to do the same thing. Plus, my Ob suggested I get a hysterectomy last Sept and I refused. So, not only did I have to tell him that I was undoing the surgery he did (TL), I also had to tell him I wanted more kids and I refuse to have my uterus removed! At first he was quiet, then he was telling me all the risks because I am advanced maternal age. Then he looked me in the eye and said "I think you are healthy enough physically and emotionally to carry a baby full term." So...I had the TR!! How he changed his mind about my needing the hysterectomy to me being healthy enough is beyond me! I have since changed Ob's because I needed a more proactive doctor. I love my new one!
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I am planning on having my TR in Jan. or Feb 2010. My annual exam is coming up on Thurday with my obgyn doctor. How do I tell him, I am getting a TR when he was the one that performed my TL in the first place. I hope he does not act negative about it. Do you have any experiences with this issue?
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