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Ebony, Email me and hopefully I can assist you in getting started. We do not have to have your report to actuallly schedule your appointment. You can fill out another medical release and have them send your records here. I look forward to hearing from you and hopefully meeting you in the near future. RhondaB@tubal-reversal.net Rhonda'
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Karen I hope you all the best. I was on bed rest for 3 months with contractions that the doctors could not stop with my son. With my girl it was better. It was as if my body said ohh yeah I have done this before,lol. I am 27 and my husband does not have any children of his own. Though he is a very great dad he still would like one of his own. We are hoping for a TR in March of 2008. We are just waiting on the last of the money. If your husband is like mine he is more worried about you than having a baby. My has wanted a baby for over 2 years but would not say yes to the TR until he talked to doctors and I had fought out all I could.Like you have been told before make sure you and your husband can openly talk about everything that is going on and understand each others side of it the best you can. Miranda ME-27 DH-21 DS-7 DD-4 TL-10/20/03 TR-HOPING FOR MARCH 2008
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hello, my name is Ebony and i have a question. i faxed off the form for my op\pthl reports to be released on the 12 of december. they didnt get faxed over until the 28. i didnt know about dr. berger until after i had already sent off for them to be faxed off to another doctor in clearwater thats closer to me cause i live in fl. today is the 2 and they havent got back with me YET!!! THE HOSPITAL TOLD ME THEY WERE FAXED OFF ON THE 28, AND I KNOW THAT THEY GOT THEM. no one has gotten back with me i think that is VERY INCONSIDERATE because we have been eagerly waiting to hear from them. I have e- mailed her and called her and i have not heard nothing from them. i was wondering if i could ask for them to be faxed off to dr. berger if they would do it. i no longer want to have my reversal there because i feel like my dream is not their dream if so i would have heard something by now. i have been turned off by their lack of communication and i am not impressed. on the other hand, i love this site and i want dr. berger to do the reversal. any suggestions comments or ideas would be appreciated. thank u. EBONY P.S. HERE R MY STATS ME-30 DH-29 DD-11, DD-9 1\2, DD-8 1\2, DS-7 TL-11-00 TR- PRAYING FOR FEB.O8
Sometimes the men are afraid... of a lot of things relative to this topic.
Afraid to "add" to our feelings of "feeling less of a woman" because we can't have children. They don't want to act like the WANT a child... knowing we can't have one - and knowing what that does to us.
Afraid of "fatherhood" - even though he may be a "father-figure" to your son - the overwhelming emotion and responsibility of it actually being "yours forever" is slightly different than assuming the role with a child you didn't bring into this world - weren't there to watch be born. Everyone is afraid of "taking care of a new baby." Because it is ALL NEW - unknown territory.
Afraid for your health - it is surgery. There is risks involved. I've got Dr. B's back on this one... you are in the best hands at Chapel hill. I have never seen so much personalized attention! They take every precaution and won't do it if they think you are at risk for complications.
Afriad... of finding out something is wrong with them... Yep! What if you go through with this and aren't getting pregnant... and find out it is HIM that has fertility problems???
We are female. We are driven by some internal force stronger than anything any man will ever be able to understand. We go into this seeing it as being one step closer to our dreams coming true! Many men struggle with all the "what-ifs" and unknowns. (not all of them - I have seen those so totally wrapped up in this too... but maybe they passed through all the emotions your husband is bottling up right now).
My husband gave me a card the night before my surgery. It was the first time he ever mentioned "sharing my dream" - until then, he kept supporting me, but always said," We will be fine if we aren't able to have a child." It wasn't what I wanted to hear... I knew he was (is) right. But it was his way of keeping the "pressure" off me.
And Karen, it doesn't end with the surgery! The surgery is the easy part of this journey! There are women who have not gotten pregnant - even as many as 3 years after surgery. There are the ones who suffer both tubes blocking. There are the Miscarriages and tubal pregnancies... And then there are those who sail through beautifully - with pregnancies and no complications.
The emotional roller coaster you are about to embark on is fierce! Filled with lots of waiting.... waiting to ovulate....waiting to test for pregnancy... the disappointment of Aunt Flo showing up... it is a hard thing. And it can be hard on marriages!
Do your best to open lines of communication with him and find out where his hesitation is coming from.
I wish you the best of luck! And all your dreams come true!
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Hi Everyone. Im new to the message board, but not to this website. My name is Karen and I am 26, married almost 4 years and have one boy soon to be 9. In advance I'll apologize for the length of this lol. I got my tubes tied at the age of 21 after giving birth to my son at 17. I had an awful pregnancy and even worse birth. I practically started my pregnancy off with retaining fluid, which led to a 60 lb. fluid gain in the end, 30 lb. in one month. My entire pregnancy I was ignored and neglected, being told I was overeating and not exercising, when in reality I couldn't. I got to the point where there was so much fluid I could't function. Long story short, I gave birth 5 weeks early and had congestive heart failure 2 days later ending up in ICU for about 5 days. My son had a stroke prior to birth and after all this, there was every doctor imaginable giving their opinion on what went wrong, and why. I was told for many years I had peripartum cardiomyopathy, which is basically a pregnancy induced heart condition that you can recover from or have after birth to my understanding. With this diagnosis I went to two doctors to get their opinion on any further pregnancies. One said I had 80% chance of dying, the other 50%. So, I decided to go ahead and get the surgery. I regretted it almost immediately. My husband and I dated several times, and we got back in contact about 2 weeks before my surgery. I said lets get together in 3 weeks. We did, and we were engaged in a month and married in a year. Could the timing of all that be any worse?? Since than I've obviously grown up some and I am a little smarter. Ive done some research and there are a lot of similarities in peripartum cardiomyopathy and preeclampsia/toxemia. Basically, I believe I had preeclampsia that went not unnoticed, but IGNORED. They would not recognize the fluid I was retaining when it was obvious to everyone else and with the amount of fluid, my toes didn't touch the ground my knees couldn't lock and I could feel it when I walked...my shoe size went up a whole size...it had no where else to go but in my lungs and suffocate my heart. I had 4+ protien in my urine and my blood pressure went through the roof reaching 200's/high 100's. In my opinion, I think I made a mistake in getting my tubes tied, I did it based on a condition that was being used as a diagnosis that I didn't understand. If I get pregnant again, I may be high risk and I don't know the statistics on preeclampsia happening again, but I do know the statistics with peripartum cardiomyopathy (if that was indeed what I had) and either your heart heals or it doesn't and if it does, you are fine and can have more children.... which in my case my heart and my heath are normal. I have noticed on other posts that women are talking about this post tubal syndrome as well, which my family physician mentioned to me about a year after my tubal surgery. I can't believe how many women suffer from this. I told my husband, if we go ahead and make an appointment with Dr.Berger, if we don't get pregnant-at the very least maybe I will be relieved from some of what I am suffering from after my tubal surgery. Anyhow, he isn't 100% on board yet. Having a baby is all I think about everyday all day. I said, someday I will do this right, I will be married and plan a pregnancy and be happy about it, celebrate it and enjoy it and have someone there to enjoy it with me. I am almost 10 years older, in a much better position than I was as a teenager and I truly believe, with the right doctors who know my history and watch me carefully I will be fine.... I just want a baby so badly it hurts. I feel less of a women not being able to bear a child, not being able to give my husband a child of his own.... I have taken the steps, however, in this process. The funds are ready, and my medical records on their way... Im just so frustrated!!
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