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Thanks so much ladies! From now on, I'll follow the need to know advice!
I'm 27, and everyone keeps acting like I'm so old to have another baby. Goodness. I think this is probably a far better age than when I had my other children, to be honest!
My husband and I are discussing the financial aspects and hope to schedule the TR before the summer!
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I agree with Andie and Dancy. I don't need anyone's approval so I don't seek it. I am sure I would get the same bs if I told everyone, why do that to myself? When I am 3 - 4 months pregnant, perhaps then I will tell a few people - maybe not!!!! It will be on a "need to know" basis.
Anyhoo, wishing you all the best in getting that bfp asap.
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Jody, I have 4 children ages 18-4 and when I told my family they thought I was crazy but my DH and I told them this is what we want and they came around. I love my DH and he is so supportive with my 4 children from anthor marriage.Don't worrie about what other people think. Good Luck !!!!! Much baby dust.... rinkie
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I agree with DMZ. I haven't told people about it - I'd rather just explain a pregancy which 99% of people would be happy about once it is actually a reality. Unless they will be financially supporting you and the child, it is really no one's business.
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Jody~ I don't discuss my TR or ttc with people, generally(Just you girls here on the MB). If I did, it would be inviting their comments and opinions, which I am not interested in! Dancy
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I am so blessed in having support where I need it. My husband is all for it, my son just cant wait, and well..my FIL is the one paying for it. How's that for support? He cant wait to be a Grandfather! My ex husband's family has gotten wind of it and they are being truely hateful about it. My ex MIL actually emailed me and told me that having a baby at my age was beyond stupid and it would serve me right if my baby was born deformed or worse. How aweful is that? Besides, whatever child God sees fit to send to me, is the child that I will love and cherish no matter what!
Anytime you're feeling like you need support Jody, just come here and we'll be there for you.
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Jody, my SIL doesn't agree with it at all. She tells me that I am crazy and I shouldnt ruin my life. I mean who is she to tell me that this will ruin my life???? DH's parents are great with it..they are excited like we are. My one sister lives close and she is excited. So the only one that has a problem with it is my SIL. I really dont know why she is acting the way she is...could be that she wants the only grand child in the family..who knows...I just try not to let it bother me...I am going to do what I want anyway ya know...
I encourage you to follow your heart and do what is best for you and your DH. Everyone elses opinion is of no consequence. If you want another child and it's apparent that you do, I say go for it. There will always be those who want to rain on your parade so keep an umbrella with you! Wishing you the best.
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Tammy, Your situation is sooo much like mine. I have always been with my dh too and some people have treated me AWFUL since my tr. Mostly his sisters and mother I truly think deep down they are jealous also and want to do the same but can or wont. One of his sisters even said since she was in a fender bender car accident that that was going to make her be able to get pg! I was like HUH?! never heard that before! So I know it boils down to jealousy. Anyway Just thought id put my 2 cents in here if thats ok.
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My husband and I had a different situation. We have always been married to each other, and honestly, it wasn't any easier telling family and friends about the Reversal. Most of his family thought we were being selfish bringing another child into this world. I think most of the women that complain, are deep down jealous. You'll be surprised after you have the surgery, how those same women will want to talk to you in secret, because they would like to have the surgery
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Hey Jody.. I totally understand where you are coming from. I too am not getting support from my family. Only DH , friends and his family support us. We arent as financially secure but then again most of americans arent. They are like me, live check to check. Im not in debt..my bills are paid on time. we cant afford the luxuries in life. Id rather be broke , happy & with a child, than broke & miserable. I know it hurts..but theres nothing you can do. I have heard some women state that once their baby was born, everyone changes their feelings. CHildren bring people together. just take it 1 day at a time..and pull support from those who provide it. try not to focus on the negative.. we are here for you Melissa
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Dear Jody, We certainly understand your feelings and thoughts about wanting to add to your family with your husband! Most of the patients that we see are walking right in your shoes since they are usually in their 2nd marriages and their husbands do not have children in most cases. Everyone seems to have an opinion in life....whether we want it or not and it is up to us to sift through all of it keeping the granules of truth that make sense to us and ring true to our hearts. Good luck finding the peace within yourself to do what is right for you and your husband:) Patti Connelly,RN
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Jody, I so understand where you are coming from. I have really no support except from dh and mother in law. They I am crazy, why would you do that, your over 40.
I have heard so much I have learn to block it out, that is why I come to this board. Every one is so supportive and wonderful, that I get the confidence to do this and I am not wrong or selfish.
I have a wonderful home, a supportive dh and our baby wil be loved. The benefit is I don't need daycare, so I will see this babys first steps and get the quality time that I didn't get with my three boys.
Don't let it get you down. Older parents our known to bring out more productive children. (I read that in a magazine) Good luck.
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