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Boston....We did not tell the kids about the TR until after it was done. The reaction was mixed, and some were quite selfish...and got even more selfish when I got my first BFP..however that endly badly as it was a ruptured e/p and with how serious it got with surgery etc...the kids saw their wicked ways and I'm happy to say....all pretty much on board. Although...my DD13 said it's not her fault if she fails math one day because of a baby crying all night...and she's not sharing a room. I can handle that.
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Bostonlass. I have a 15 year old son and a 10 year old daughter. My ex husband remarried a year after the divorce and they have a 2 year now. My kids love him to pieces and my daughter is so good with him and takes care of him and she buys things for him and is always thinking of him. So I thought she would be happy when I told her, but when I mentioned I was doing this;well it was not met with a warm reception from my daughter. She does not want me to have any more kids because she thinks things will change and she said that I have her and her brother and I don't need anymore kids.
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2 of my girls were 10 & 11 when I had my TR and they were all for it, they were thrilled when our baby was born, they are now 11 & 12 and yesterday we told them we are expecting TR baby #2 and they are just as excited!
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Thanks everyone. I was just really shocked by my 11 soontobe18 yr old! lol. Her exact reaction to me was "you are NOT having a baby!" I honestly felt like my own mother was yelling at me!!!!!!
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Boston Im 24 soon to be 25 and Im scheduled for TR on 8/4/08 and my kids are 2 & 3 so they dont really completely understand what my DH and I talk about alot but they do tell me they want a little sis but then sometimes my 2 year old says he wants a little brother then at times he dont want me to have another baby, but your kids will come around! I was in the 10th grade when my mom had my sister and I just love her beyond words she turned 8 the day before Valentines of this year and also when my mom found out she was pregnant so did my BF's mom and my aunt my best friend is a year older than me and my cousin is a year younger and we all were just estactic and would not have had it any other way so just go with your heart and the rest will fall into place. GL Jennifer in NC TR 8/4/08
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I haven't told mine I'm expecting yet. I guess I will this weekend. They do know we've gone through treatments. The oldest doesn't seem to care. DD17 threw a fit, but it's hard to tell what her dad has told her. She immediately flew into "you're pushing us out". DS14 doesn't get excited by much, he's way too cool for that, but he loves kids, so I think he'll be okay with it. I did ask DS and DD21 if they felt the same way DD17 did, and they both said no.
I didn't tell my kids about my Tr - same reason as you- My kids are DS-13, DD-12, DD-10, DD-7 and we just told them three weeks ago we are having another baby-- They were ALL screaming and jumping up and down.. We are all excited!!! I think when it happens and they see that little baby their hearts will soften and they will be in love with the baby-- who doesn't love a baby!!! I was 15 when my little sister was born and I adored her and still do!!!! Your kids will come around - continue on your journey and do what your heart wants to- the rest will all fall into place!!!
I'm 42, my husband is 35 and I have two daughters ages 11 and 10. I'm just wondering if any of you with children around the same age as mine had bad reactions to the news that they may possibly have a new addition to the family? I haven't had my TR yet (will be having it 4/21/08) but I have been dropping hints here and there. I don't want to say for sure to them since only God knows what will happen in our future and why ruffle their feathers when it might not even happen, you know?
My 10 yr old has been ok with it and even talks about names but my 11 has had an odd reaction stating that I'm too old and insisting that I should not count on her to help. (i'd never do that anyways so I don't know why she got that idea in her head.)
I'd appreciate any insite into how tweens are affected when a parent decides to try for one more.
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