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HI Girls, Katy and Michelle..WElcome!! I turn 40 at the end of this month. I too had the TR for other reasons except to get pregnant. I have sinced then decided that we would allow this to happen to us if God chooses to give us life again. I have 5 children with my DH so, fortunately we are not in the situation that we do not have children together. I wish you both the very best in your upcoming surgeries....you will not regret it. I feel sooo much better and this was the best thing I ever did for " myself and my family"! Blessings, Christie TR 3/13/06 and alomost 40
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Katy, We have 3 girls. The oldest just turned 11 TODAY (hormones, meltdown and all), our next is 9 and our BABY is also 5 years old. We live in FL. Where are you at?
I agree, the PTLS is the worst. I kept having more symptoms and blaming it on different things: very heavy periods, even at night which was never a problem, huge clots, feeling completely tired and fatigued, tingling in my arms and fingers, PMS, age spots, huge abdominal bloating, facial hair and acne.
I had never even heard of it until I found this website. Of course the ob/gyn who did the TL never mentioned any of these side effects. As I read, it was like a light clicked on in my head saying that's me. But it is unbelievable that this could be happening to so many women and still not be recognized by the medical community. Of course, they used to believe that cramps and PMS were all hysteria, too
Good night. I do have to get up early tomorrow am. ~ Michelle
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Thank you, thank you, Michelle. Your reply was so kind. We do have two lovely girls, 15 and 5 years old! Can't wait to see what will happen. I just thought I was getting old with migraines, ridiculous periods and premenstrual anxiety and pain but after reading the web sight I TOTALLY have PTLS. I can't believe I didn't put it all together. I'm scheduled for June 3. Can't wait!
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Hello Katy, My name is Michelle and I am 41. I also had my TL 5 years ago and am scheduled for a TR on June 19th. My husband and I have been married for 17 years and we have 3 children together. I know exactly how you feel! Like you, I am also unhappy with with my TL and want to correct a wrong that I made to my body. Unfortunately, this mistake is also leading down a path of PTLS... sort of adding insult to injury. I always tried to lead a healthy life (physically and spiritually) and can't believe that I was so stupid to get a TL. I just didn't realize what I was doing at the time. Like you, I also think it is important to correct the mistakes that we made, as much as is possible. And, if we are blessed with another child, that would be a wonderful blessing from God. If we are not, it will be OK for us (disappointing, yes) but knowing that we did as much as we could and left the blessings in God's hands. You are definitely not a freak.... much more a kindred spirt ~ Michelle
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Hi everyone. I'm Katy and I'm an oldie. I'm 43 years old and scheduled for TR in June 2008. My DH and I simply want to right a wrong and be obedient to God's will in our lives regardless if He blesses us with more children or not. Anyone understand this or am I as big a freak as I feel right now? (Not getting much support from family or friends but feel I have to do this. It breaks my heart that I chose to tie my tubes 5 years ago.)
Wish we could all get together and have a farewell TTC gathering to meet,cry and help each other threw this.Though we never met I have a special place for all of you ladies here on the board and always will. Sandra welcome to Texas! I'm in Fort Worth,you will love San Antonio. Chris
Firstly " I apoligize if i upset you " But i will be honest! I wasnt really reading posts, when i started the new thread on BEHALF of the over 40 girls! As i had been looking after DH who has been recovering from an operation!!!
I " noted " that the thread was at the 100 Post mark and there had been very low activity on the thread i.e it's last few post's , So i thought i'd start a new thread as i "said" before on behalf of the all the over 40 girls!!! New members! & old!!
I thought it would be nice to bring over the last post from thread 32! ( Linda's ) Then noticed that another member had asked if her "post" could be brought over as she did not know how to do it!!!! Copy & paste
However i have gone back and looked at your post and yes i can see where you were coming from!! We all know that this TTC journey pulls at our heart strings and i do wish you all the best in what ever choice you make!! You have been on this roller coaster much longer than i have and who know's how i will feel once i reach 47..
Belated birthday wishes to you!! Emmie if this is the end of your TTC days!! Then i'd like to wish you all the best no matter what your decision...
Sorry once again if you felt that i blocked your post out!! By starting a new thread...
Debs
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Hi Ladies,
Sorry I have not been here for a while. The reason is like Carmencita I am beginning to feel too old for all this and I have been asking myself the question how long will I carry on? I suppose the possibility is still there but I do not feel the same about it anymore and coming here reading all your stories about trying so hard to get what you want makes me realise that I do not belong here anymore. I will check in from time to time and I wish you all the best for the future and I hope you will get what you want and if not find peace within yourself.
Kay wishing you lots of luck for your July try!!
Chris hope you are keeping busy and feeling great.
Betty a trip to China sounds wonderful, wishing you a great trip there!!
Linda and Anita I wish I was in your shoes, lucky devils. Wishing you both a healthy pg!!
Debs my English friend, hope things are going better for you than they did for me, it is not so easy though at our age. I wish you the best of luck though.
Michele and Janice don't give up hope yet, you have a few years left yet!!!!!
All of you I have forgotten (sorry) and all of you newcomers wishing you the best of luck on this (sometimes) long and hard journey. Do not forget there are plenty of us older ones that did succeed!!!!!!!!!!!
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Emmie, I did not get to read your post..did not see it. I do remember seeing you on this thread when I would read it..I am new to this thread. I am sorry that you did not get your baby you were wanting...I pray that God will feel that emptiness in your heart. I wish the very best for you !!
Ladies, I hope you all have a great day ! christie
I know how you feel Kay. Life can seem so hard and unfair at times. No amount of praying can take that feeling away. Why not me and why her........ Goodness I have thought it many times myself. The hardest was when my neighbour gave birth to a girl a few months ago at the time I should have given birth myself.
What I also found hard was the fact that I sort of poured my hearth out and said goodbye in a way at the end of the last chapter but Debs just rode rough shot over that and said next chapter please so I suppose nobody read it. I suppose it was not what people wanted to hear but the truth is I have just had another birthday and turned 47 so how long can you carry on before it gets silly?
I do hope everybody gets what they want eventually, with or without praying but as for me I will check in now and again but will not actively try anymore.
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Kay, I am not upset about your responce because your only saying what you feel. However I must respond. Never ever did I say that a person does not pray enough. I know that many on this web site pray on a daily basis. I am NO BETTER than anyone else on this web site that has a desire for a child. What I am saying is that we (yes we cause I am there too) consume ourselves with the desire to have a child that we let it live our lives. I know I was there so I feel I have every right to say this. I have seen your post many times and you do provide great advise to others. But what I was saying is that this is the over 40 board and many of us keep looking at that clock. Quit looking at the clock it will happen but not when you want it to. I have not logged in for so long I even lost my log in info, and when I want to share my thoughts which is something you do every day, you are quick to slam me for it. Shame on you for thinking that I was saying a person has to PRAY more to be in a postition that I am. I am not out of the woods with this pregnancy. I am in no way putting anybody down just simply saying give your wants to God, and live your life every day for all that has to give you. Well you coninue to write on this website every day I know where my place is, to stay off and let you speak. Oh and yes, on my previous statments before I have given Dr. Berger and his staff thanks. Without them the door would not be open. Well have a blessed day and to all you women may God answer your prayers. I pray that I will be back in 7 months. Lina
Gosh darn it I am right where you are at. God is and will always be my savior. I don't know how many times I have prayed for God to bless me with a child for my husband. I pray for him. Not so long ago a woman on here posted " I can't help it if we were blessed with a child and they weren't." How horrible for someone like you and I to hear this.
Ladies these things hurt. Like Kay said every day I count my blessings for the wonderful husband I have and three healthy sons. I pray my son doesn't get shot or killed in the line of duty, I pray for this horrible war to end, I honestly pray for world peace. Not all prayers get answered.
Lina I am so glad you finally became pregnant. I could just imagine your excitement. I am sure your post was not meant to offend anyone as I know you were in our shoes. Believe me when I say that I am praying just as hard as you did but as Garth Brooks said "Some of God's greatest things are Unaswered Prayers." May God Bless all of you.
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Good Morning Ladies, I hope you all have very blessed day with lots and lots of Baby Dust coming your way!! For those that are TTC naturally best of wishes there and for those that are doing IVF or waiting to do IVF ( Kay ) I hope you get at least 2 babies for all your waiting and patience. Blessings, Christie
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