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Once again thank you so much for the kind words ladies.
Shari to answer your question I am a SAHM (stay at home mom). By no means are we well off. DH is a truckdriver and we're getting ready to relocate to Texas so you would think social services would say no way, but these boys really love us as I do them.
I am trying to get work part time in the medical field in Corpus Christi part time because I want to be with these boys when their out of school. The state doesn't charge anything to adopt in California if the child is in foster care. Needless to say this could be a long journey but we are willing to wait it out.
Just remember how much your prayers mean to our family and these boys. Thanks so much.
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Mama12- It helps that both my husband & I have been adopted, him by his grandparents, me by my father--- For me, it was a bit of a process, I had an 'idea' of what I thought our family would look like, great husband, kids, house, white picket fence, June Cleaver, vaccuuming in pearls, etc. etc. It took some time for the Lord to work on my heart, but when I told my husband I wanted to adopt a little girl from China, His answer was "Ok"!?!? Can you believe it?? He said "OK". He is sooo amazing. We started the process and now we are just waiting. He's so cool like that, He loves kids and we would fill our house to the ceiling with kids, if it were up to him. And we just might!! LOL I was totally blown away when he just calmly answered. I was like what?? did you just hear what I said??? This is life changing!! LOL Not for him, He was like, Let's do! Anyway, He's a character. I was afraid I couldn't love 'someone else's' child like my own children. But its amazing, the love that grows in your heart for these lil' ones. Different and yet the same. A miracle, really.
Maybe that's your husband's fear too??? You sound alot like my husband, another 'Let's Do it!!!" LOL
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That is so awesome and I am soooooo JEALOUS!!! I've always wanted to my DH doesn't and well you know I have to tolerate it. If I had not found him and married him, I would've pursued it on my own, but I've got him.
Best of luck to you Sandra it's a very good thing you are doing, you are making 2 lives much much better!!! Hugs to all of you! Lisa you too, I'm so jealous. Even if I have my one, it's never ending!!! I want more than my body can ever possibly produce that's where adoption really does it for me.
Shari my understanding in NY anyway is they get a sort of state support check every month, and health insurance but everyone just about in NY has health insurance. It's not much $ and you need to be able to provide them with a room, furniture all that stuff. Enough income to keep your house running smoothly. Background checking, reference checking and there are different types of fostering you can do. Late night emergency, or semi long term placements. There's different options and ages you can pick. You probably could do it on one income. Especially since you would be there to actually parent the child that there is a huge huge plus in the foster parent world. You should call your local Social Services office they can direct you in the right place.
I so wish my DH would come around.... Maybe one will fall into our laps then he'd see my point of view.
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Sandra, God bless you and your family. Please know I will be praying for you. I think it is wonderful that you are looking into adopting these 2 little boys. My husband & I are adopting Internationally. just waiting . . . . and waiting . . . . and waiting. But we know God has a plan and our little baby will come to us in time. Funny, we were so worried that I would get pg right away and it could interfere with the adoption process, but so far, nothing on either end. We figure God has much to do to prepare us for all He has planned. We are okay waiting, We only want His timing, which is perfect. May the Lord bless you and keep you, may He cause His face to shine upon you, Seek Him first, and all these 'things' shall be added unto you. Stay in His Word and He will guard your steps, whispering in your ear, 'No this is the way; walk here'. Stand firm. Take heart, the Lord strengthens His people. Bless you Lisa
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Sandra you will be. My SIL went into foster care 8 years ago..just felt a burden to. She had 3 girls of her own. Well, long story shorter version..she fostered several different children over a period of two years. She then got 3 girls..ages at the time 7,5 and 2 that had been in foster care shuffled everywhere since the 2 year old was a newborn. The bilogical parents were only 22 at the time and already had 5 children ( a set of twins too) and both were in jail for drug and abuse. Those poor babies had delt with so mcuh stuff that I cannot even repeat. Well, my SIL took them in and loved them back to health...she was able to adopt all three of them and they have been apart of our family now for 6 years and the way those children have changed has just been remarkable and a blesssing to watch.
You and your family are doing a wonderful thing and you will reap so much joy from it. Many Blessings, christie
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Shari, To be honest we had no plans to adopt but our neighbor is a foster Mom to the two boys and I have become attached to them as if they were my own. As Angel said we have to do a few classes but we can't do much until the mother's parental rights have been terminated.
Ladies, Thanks for all the prayers, I'm sure we will need them. I took the boys out for ice cream last night and DH has taken them fishing. I realize were far off from adopting them but if all else fails these two little boys have made us realize adoption may be for us after all. We will continue to TTC and just may be we will have our family after all.
Thanks Michelle and Christie, I am so glad wonderful families found you and I hope I can only be as good as a Mother as I was to my three grown son.
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shari, here in WV all you need to do to get the foster process started is call the local human services office and fill out the papers and take the classes and thy place a child as soon as the classes are complete. you can even say what ages u want but babies are hard to get, age 5-12 aer the fastest to b placed.we were going to foster a child untill my best friend's sister in law (age 14) got pg and we took that child right after birth, we have custudy but not adopted him yet. she will not give up her right so we have to wait another year for her to be gone before we can start the adoption. we could not even get custudy untill 6 onths ago when she turned 18. He is almost 3 now and we want to change his name before he starts school.either way he is our son and would not change a thing. but it you really want to foster there is always `little ones that need a mom and dad. (boys are easier to get than girls) good luck and if you have any questions feel free to ask! Angel
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Sandra, Just out of curiosity, what all is entailed in adopting (procedure, costs, etc.) I have so many times thought about fostering, but never knew how to go about it.
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Oh I am so happy for you. I am adopted and I think that is a wonderful gift..you will be a blessing to those boys and they will bless you. I think it is great..God will give us what he wants us to have and sometimes it is not " the order what we put in". Blessings to you and your family!!! christie TR 3/06 and no BFP yet...turning 40 too.
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Sandra, I hope everything turns out well for your family. I was adopted at birth and I have always felt "special". After all not everyone gets "picked"lol. Best of luck to you, Robin, Devon and Dylan. Please keep us posted. Michelle
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My TR was 2/28/05 and we have had 6 M/C's but now DH (Robin) and I have been blessed with the presence of two beautiful boys Devon 12 and Dylan 5. We couldn't be more happier. We are still going through the legal mumbo jumbo but ladies please pray for us. We want these boys so much. We are still TTC and have not given up but for some reason God has put these two boys in our path. Robin and I have a lot of hurdles to jump. Your prayers would mean so much if these little guys would become ours. All my hugs and prayers are back with you.
Thanks, Sandra 45 next week Robin 32 DS Kris 23 DS Derek 20 DS Quinn TL 3/90 TR 2/05 M/C 7/06, 8/06, 12/06, 1/07, 9/07 and 12/07 Hopefully adding Devon and Dylan
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I was totally blown away when he just calmly answered. I was like what?? did you just hear what I said??? This is life changing!! LOL Not for him, He was like, Let's do! Anyway, He's a character. I was afraid I couldn't love 'someone else's' child like my own children. But its amazing, the love that grows in your heart for these lil' ones. Different and yet the same. A miracle, really. ![[Smile]](smile.gif)
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