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It's me again. You know, the one with the sexual problem. I appreciate those of you who have said that a TR fixed the problem-that gives me hope. I am still able to have an orgasm, it's just not even close to what it used to be. The only way I can explain it is that it used to be like an M-80 going off and now it's more like one of those firecrackers that is a dud and kind of just goes "phhht". And to answer the question, no-I'm not on any medication. I would just like to know if a TR would fix things. But I don't have any money, so I would have to use a credit card. My husband would kill me, but he's not the one with the problem. OK, I'll shut up now.
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Miranda you are so funny.... Brenda, I can tell you that my sex drive has gone downhill dramatically since my TL and my husband is so frustrated hes ready to strangle me. I keep telling him that I don't choose to not have a sex drive.I'm only 27...I should have a sex drive! I honestly can't stand to even be touched anymore. I know that intimacy is part of being married but I just don't have that desire anymore. You start to question if you even love each other and it turn into one big mess. I feel like such a wreck. I can't wait for my TR and hopefully I will be normal again....well, I was never exactly normal but you know what I mean,lol. Anyway, I hope things get worked out for you....we are both looking for the same answeres. ~ Kate
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Gwen sorry to hear about the teeth you had to have remove. I pray you will heal fast. I know what that is like I had my wisdom teeth cut out back in 05. Boy I can still remember what it was like. If you want to stay in touch here is my e-mail. I know they do not like us giving it out but it is the only way to really stay in touch on here. And sshhh I know how to block people, lol. ranisheets23@yahoo.com Miranda
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I never really made the connection until recently I guess. I remember always being happy and outgoing and often ask myself why I wasn't that way anymore. I thought, maybe, life had just beat me down and once you see the dark side, you just can't ever be truly happy again.
I am satisified with my life, but this is always this lingering frown. I have trouble with orgasm too, but not desire. Maybe its that since having a TL, we sense that since we can't have babies anymore - its harder to find joy or fun in the act. And I have always felt that sex and happiness with life go hand in hand.
Whether or not I ever have another child, I believe that THINKING I could at any time get pregnant.....there will be that extra light in my life.
Dawn
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Brenda,
Are you taking any medications? I know when I started taking Ritalin for ADD, my sex drive was increased tremendously...but actually getting to an orgasm/climax took FOREVER and took a lot more stimulation. Almost made it too much work to bother with...
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Sorry about all the misspellings, I am on pain meds for the 3 teeth that were taken out yesterday...
Anyway, Miranda, you are on my mind FREQUENTLY! I am so excited for you...PLEASE!!! PLEASE!!! PLEASE!!! Keep me in you "loop", I consider you family and I am praying for a little one for you guys... ANd YES the sex became a pure expression our our love once again... I no longer feel "used" or dirty... The only time I wanted sex before TR was when I really "needed" to blow off steam... it wasn't about the love between my dh and I, NOW...oh it is so full and clean, it truly is an expression of our love.
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Gwen your story gives me great hope in all this. I set my TR for March 24,2008 and I am getting very excited cause we have 19 days to go. Miranda
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In my case, sex just wasn't the smae anymore. I could have and an orgasim but it felt like us a release, not likea natural expression our my dh and I's love...the TL "cheapened" the experance. I lost almost all my drive. It was never the same. I am 7 weeks past TR and I can tell you that everything in that area...is ALLLLLL better...LOL
My biggest improvement after TR is that I have lost my rage... I was having a hard time not screaming at EVERYONE before my TR and after my TL, now it is back to normal.
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Brenda, have you been to a doctor to have a check up? Have you told your OB/GYN about this problem? I believe a decreased sex drive may be a side effect of the TL, but I'm not sure. Hopefully one of the nurses will post more for you. I hope you get some answers. Good luck.
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I had a TL in 2005 and ever since the surgery I have had a lot of the symptoms that women complain about. But the thing that bothers me the most is that from the first time my husband and I had sex after the surgery, I have never been able to have a satisfying orgasm. I feel like the nerves necesssary for this have been cut or something. I read about women who lost their sex drive after a TL, but that's not the case with me. I still have the desire, but my body won't cooperate. This has really put a strain on my relationship with my husband. He doesn't understand why I don't want to be touched anymore, and it's because every time we start something, I just get disappointed. I feel like my life is over. I'ts horrible to feel this way when I'm only 36 years old. I don't know if it's anything that could be fixed with a TR and I'm having a really hard time finding out. If anyone knows anything, please let me know. My email is brenda.brock@yahoo.com
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