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Good afternoon, ladies I wanted to say sorry for not satying on the subject that I will not post since I did not stayed on tr subject that I will not post anymore so that I will not offend any woman who are trying to have there tr and ttc and that I"am sorry for hurting anyone feelings I was just trying to find people that I can talked about my siuation that is all. I really deeply sorry and if I could give my advice on tr or tl then I will. but for now on I willnot post.
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Ais, sadly to say, and understanding how some of the ladies are feeling. This board is for things regarding the cause and effect of having TL and TR. Some may feel bad and think you should be able to figure this all out on your whole without dampening others spirits of enhancing their futures with their DH and new babies. Myself, I strong feel for you as I stated before we all played the fool one time or MORE in our lives. If things are going the way there going for you get out....all the signs are there. In my eyes your so called DH is not a real man/husband . You mentioned you have daughters your raising, I am more than certain you don't want them to be that way when their dating or married. Right now it seem like with the phone being off, you needing transportation and on top of that dealing with the drama he's bring you. May be you should speak to marriage counselor or just get out the marriage. I am from Maryland (Woodlawn) it's a lot of places you can go to help with food, shelter and employment until you can get things rolling. Instead of you hanging under him while your girls are in Maryland, go with them and seek help. Later for other guys your time should be on getting you and your children together.
Once again wish you luck... Understand these ladies aren't being mean they just are in a faze of happy spirits looking forward to TTC or TR or even maybe relief from PTLS.
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For Goodness sakes Aisha...are you kidding? Should you look for someone else? Get your health in line and then your life. How does finding someone else right now while you are married and believe you have an STD make you any better than the man you are married to?
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Good morning Ladies,I wish everything would be ok with me and my Dh well for starters I woke up on saturday morning with dh and we were talking and laughing so he decide that he was going to take garbage to the dumpest and he left his cell phone so I waited a few minutes to make sure he was gone and I pick up his phone and I was checking to see who called and I heard it beeping so it said new voicemail so I called and listen to the message and it was a woman and his coworker well Mr Brown called her while at work.Before you guys asked how come he did not call me well our house phone is cut off but we been using his cell for house phone for right now.But anyway the woman said Hi Meartie this is marie and I sawed that you called I was on the other house phone talking to a friend of mine about my son who has been in the hospital for two days and I have not had any sleep for two days worry about him.and thats why I have not been to work.He got to come today(Friday June 6,2008) and I will be into work tomoorow (saturday June 7,2008) and I know that you are off this weekend and I hope you are having night bye.so when I heard this message I could not beleave that he would give a another woman his cell phone number and you know what he has been hiding his phone from me and I can not find it at all cause he know that I will snoop and look though it and when I do check it he has earsed all the incoming and out going calls .I guess that I was blind and not to think this would happen maybe it is inncent or they are just friends (nope)and Lately he has been mean and nasty to me everytime I saything cause yesterday I was leaving a message for a friend of mine and he ws like that is not how you leave a message you sound so retarded and you do not leave a message like that and thats is not how you leave a message. This was my message Hi Tina this Aisha and I was wondering if you are still coming to the pool party talked to you later.where there anything wrong with that I do not think so.we are suppose to get the rebate check sometime this week and I am going to spend my money on something that I want and the kids are going away to mother"s house for the summer and I going to be here with him and the other night he told me that I needed to go to maryland with kids cause he does not want me here to be spying him I tod him no I need to look for job he does not like for me to drive the car to look for job and so i just leave that alone for a sake arugment.I guessed you ladies was right and my gut that he is cheating. And Iam still bleeding but no sex at all I think that I have edomentros or a cyst but I will nott know for sure until I go to the doctor next week and bad thing about this I cannot go to the pool with kids sometime cause of this but like yesterday I did get in and fun at the party got drunk but I had fun.my girls stayed in the pool for seven and half hours expect to used the bathroom and get something to eat my dh did come and he was acting all like he did not want me to fix somethin for him.and my friend that leave upstaires said you alt be glad that you have a woman that want to take care of you like that.but he act like it is a crime when it comes to fixing his plate.He said i could take of myself she need to worried about the kids and I said they all ready ate. he evently let me fix his plate.I have a question do two make right do I need to be out there looking for some one else. let me know thanks Aisha 32 TL 10/22/02 and Tr?
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Ais, I am sorry to hear that your situation is going wrong. I have a friend who name is the same , her situation was the same as your's. She finally found the gut to get out the relationship before kids or marriage. Both of which she wanted badly. What's sad is that you hope and pray for the best to come out of this but don't be ignorant to the fact he may be the worst not the best thing for you.
Are you scheduled for TR ? Have you already had it ?
If so, with your situation. Having a baby will not change a man. He is who you allow him to be.
Do you make him take 6mth blood test and urine?
I am so sorry for you and I pray you find the strength to leave him. Understand you are not in need your in want. Wanting a man that hurt you mentally, physically,financially are not loving you the way you need to be.
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Iam not in denial about any thing and I think we as a married couple try to figure it out and as far as the bleeding is concern Iam not bleeding heavy it is like when I first come the first day it is light I do not have pain or any discomfort or anything like that
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Aisha, I just wanted to add a few tid bits here also. I just read these posts for the first time and I can see that there may be alot of frustration. It is just my opinion but it really seems like you are in denial. Your husband gave you an STD before you were even married. That should tell you something right there. If you have been with this man for ten years and he has been cheating on you and giving you STD's then you may be bleeding so much for a number of reasons. One cause of irregular bleeding is CANCER. You may be prone to cancer as you probably have PID and this can cause cancer. Your gynalogical health is probably totally messed up from the years of exposure to many STD's. Some of which you probable didnt even know you had. You really need to think about yourself and have some respect for your body. STD's do not magically appear, unless you have been cheating on your husband. One of the two of you has brought this disease into your lives, it didnt come from out of the blue so ask yourself...are you willing to continue to do this to your body. I really hope that you find the strength to get out of this. If your husband is unwell enough to be sleeping with woman who are giving him STD's then I wonder just how far these STD's will go. What if he sleeps with someone with HIV or AIDS. Your bleeding is a complication and symptom of some things going very wrong with you gynelogically. I hope that all goes very well for you and the outcome for your health is positive but please dont let that make you forget that your husband is cheating on you and you will get sick again or continue to be sick or God forbid become infected with something even worse. You've posted all of these details about yourself on this site and I hope that you know that we are giving you advice because we care. We wouldnt say things just to be crazy or judgemental, we are talking to you from experience also. I hope that you hear us. Roxanne Ladies, I am sorry if I went too much on a rampage here, I just feel like it needs to said clearly, I hope I did that. I really worry about people who do not see this as a form of abuse.
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Aisha, we are not medical professionals, you giving your delicate details and asking questions here, you are getting our opinions / advise...etc etc. As Anita said, it is best to get into your dr and get rechecked. I'm sure he will have the answers you are looking for...and if not...he can do whatever needs to be done to find the answers.
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I know that probably getting on your nerves but my point is this that I have taking the medicine I have not had sex with him since may 12 and may 13 that is the last time we had sex and How can he re-infected me if we can not have sex. so if can answer that question. so please stop assuming that we are having sex cause we are not cause of the bleeding I\'m not having any other signs expect that no itching no burning when I pee nothing else.
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Q:would the bleeding stop when I took the medicine Answer: If your DH did not take any medicine, he probably re-infected you immediately. If the bleeding is a symptom of a STD, you probably won't stop bleeding until the infection is gone.
Q: would my DH would had said something Answer: I can't imagine what your husband would or would not say to talk his way out of treatment. All I know is that BOTH of you have to take the medicine and you will BOTH have STDs until this happens.
Q: I thought that bleeding atop after the meds clear up the infection Answer: Yes, the bleeding will probably stop after the infection is gone. But, if BOTH YOU and DH don't take the medicine at the SAME TIME, then the infection won't go away and you will keep suffering and eventually, the STD could make both of you infertile -- so that you cannot have any children.
If anyone else has another take on this, please feel to jump in....
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Ok I understand that but would the bleeding stop when I took the medicine and would my DH would had said something cause the ER doctor told that Trachomis start with periods and it takes 3 to 28 days to show up.I thought that bleeding atop after the meds clear up the infection
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