If you had an STD and you had sex with your DH, then he DOES HAVE a STD.
He may not show any signs or symptoms of it and still have it. STDs can be "silent" in both men and women, which means that you can have it and not know it. Unfortunately, it can keep causing damage to your (and his) urinary and sexual organs!
If you were treated and he was not treated, then he probably reinfected you and he will continue to reinfect you until 1. he is treated or 2. you use a latex condom or 3. you stop having sex with him.
STDs can cause bleeding in between your menstrual cycles.
When you have your Dr. appt, you may want to ask your Dr. to re-check you for STDs. Ask if your DH could have it and not know or feel anything. Let your Dr. know that your DH has always refused any exams or treatment and ask for his opinion.
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I went to the ER on may23 that is when They told I had STD and the doctor gave the medicine for and I took it I do not have it again and if my husband has it would he have signs of it. I do not have signs of have it again I did not have signs of it the first time. But I do noticed that when I come off AF that I itched real bad and a terrible odor and I will have burning when I used the bathroom. I do not have sex while on my period and that just started four or five months ago. I am going to the doctor to see why Iam still bleeding and I can not figure out why Iam. can someonr help me to why Iam still bleeding. I am not on my cycle that does come until the 14th,
I am glad to hear that you are going for treatment!
I agree with Berta. It does not matter whether a man is circumcised or not. Except for the removal of a small piece of skin, both types of penises are the same.
Both a circumcised and uncircumcised penis can be clean and free of STDs. On the other hand, both can have STDs that could infect you!
Instead of being concerned about whether a man is circumcised, you should focus on getting treatment, getting healthy and this includes either not having sex with with anyone who has an STD or being sure to use a latex condom to protect yourself.
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Come to found out he is not messing around on me and I have made my self a doctor app for June 16 to found why Iam still bleeding. Would he have some type of feeling from this
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Aisha...I wouldn't be worrying about circumsized or not...I would be worrying about getting myself healthy and not having sex with partner unless you know for certain they are are not messing around with others. Bottom line.
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Hello ladies I wanted to tell you guys thank you for the advice and I did make appointment with planned parenthood. but I do have say that when I was with my oldest daughter father who not cicumcise I did not experience any problems with like any infections or STD But I wanted to know if anyone can tell me by a man not being circumcise does cause the penis to have more problems and cause infections.
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Ais, Is there not any free medical clinics or health departments in your area? The ER is okay but it appears that you need to see an GYN for this problem. With no insurance the ER will only do so much. Please look into getting some help for yourself.
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Also, and I'm sorry to be stepping in here and I know you probably don't want to hear this. But I am going to say what probably alot of others are thinking....here is your priority list: 1. children 2. yourself 3. him Assuming your children (if you have any of your own or together with him) are safe, healthy and happy, you need to concentrate on your own health, which means being seen by a doctor and taking necessary medications. And I think any doctor would suggest not having intercourse with an infected or assumed infected man - even if he is your husband! Also, having a consistent doctor that you can trust is extremely important, especially if you choose to have TR and attempt to become pregnant. HOWEVER, lets assume you do get rid of the STDs, become healthy and find a great doctor, do you really want to have a child with a man that you think may have cheated, or know has cheated on you and given you multiple STDs??? He doesn't sound like long term reliable father material. Sorry......definitely something you need to think about. Take care and I wish you only the best.
And to add to what Miranda said...you can call your local Plan Parenthood organization. They would be able to help or point you in the right direction. I supplied the link:
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Aisha depending where you live call your health department and set a visit up with one of their doctors. Also before getting a TR and TTC you really need to get insurance and find a OB/GYN that will work with you in the case you do get pregnant.
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Hello Ladies I was wondering if anyone can help I have not had my Tr yet but I have been bleeding ever since May the 14th and it has been off and on it will stop and then it will come back I ahve little cramping I know that Iam not PG cause the tested At the ER and they I had a StD but I took the Meds and Iam clear up from that but I was wondering else could be going I do not want to go back to the Hospital cause I do not have any insurance and I do not want to make a bigger bill for myself and I do not have a ob/gyn neither so is there one out there can help me. Thanks Aisha
I have to say that I agree with the comments that Dawn and Jenn have provided, and I feel so terrible for you. You really have a number of problems (your marriage, std and your health, your future fertility). I hope that you have someone who understands these issues and can support you in making decisions to deal with them (a family member, a church member/leader, or a professional at the clinic you use).
First, it just tears my heart out to hear that your husband goes out and tells you that it is because you "get on his nerves." It has been my experience that men say these things honestly, regardless of how hurtful it might be to you. He is telling you how he feels... believe him!! (I don't want to hurt your feelings, but it sounds like he is already emotionally out of the relationship with you).
Second, is the std issue. Again, if you have been diagnosed with an std and you have been intimate with him, you can assume that he has it, too. By not being treated, he will continue to re-infect you for as long as you stay in the relationship with him. (Again, I don't want to hurt your feelings, but it seems to me that IF he cared about you, he would be treated).
Finally, you have to think about your long term fertility. STDs lead to Pelvic Inflammatory Disease. If you have had STDs for 10 years because he keeps re-infecting you, you may have PID which can affect your fertility. Here is what the CDC says about PID: "Pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) is a general term that refers to infection of the uterus (womb), fallopian tubes (tubes that carry eggs from the ovaries to the uterus) and other reproductive organs. It is a common and serious complication of some sexually transmitted diseases (STDs), especially chlamydia and gonorrhea. PID can damage the fallopian tubes and tissues in and near the uterus and ovaries. PID can lead to serious consequences including infertility, ectopic pregnancy (a pregnancy in the fallopian tube or elsewhere outside of the womb), abscess formation, and chronic pelvic pain."
If you were my sister, or my daughter, I would recommend to you that you NOT have any intimate relationship with him until you have both been treated and are free of these diseases. If you do decide to be intimate, I would recommend that you use a latex condom every time! I am not trying to scare you, but the CDC also says that women who have STDs are at increased risk of contracting HIV and you DO want to protect yourself because it is clear that he won't!
Just to give you time to get healthy and think about all this (which I am sure is overwhelming for you) is it possible for you to go to stay with someone else for a few weeks -- parents, relatives, friends? It really seems like you need some support.
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I agree with Jenn's answer. Also thou I was a little confused about you saying something about another woman, and whether or not he said that he DOES "have to mess with another Stupid woman, and get out of the house....". One, he is purposely trying to hurt you, and two, if you KNOW that it is not you, then, I am so very sorry, I don't mean to say this to hurt you, but it has to be him. Which means he has had it all this time, and lied to you for 10 years, or he got it from someone else recently, and gave it back to you again.
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